Northern: I agree he is not lost, if he did not show any interest in change I would say yes but he has showed that he wants to try. I am going to look at the Parelli course.
SDR: No he reacts same to other women as to men and yes his prev owner was a women.
Pocco: Explain what you mean by ground driving?
To every body else: I did not force my husband to get on that horse. I did not even asked him to get onto that horse. It was his decision to work with the horse after being asked by the owner. My husband is an excellent rider, been riding for 20 years, done lots of show jumping, and won lots of competitions. This is not the first problem horse we have worked with either. We have always done it this way, I do ground work and he does the riding. We have always been able to rehab every horse we worked with. I am currently the proud owner of a rehab. He was just as bad as Sebastian and now he is so sweet, loving. I'm riding him and he is so careful to not do anything to hurt me. So I believe it can be done. I know it takes alot of time. Took me 6 months with CC. I never thought it is a short term project. Was just hoping to gain time.
Saskia: I understand where the owner is coming from also. To just spend money on a horse that you can not ride is also not clever. From there the idea that I will not ask him to pay full costs. But the horse is also not mine. I have also seen how you spend money to help someone elses animal and the moment all is well he comes take the animal away and sell it to some idiot that starts the process of breaking down that poor animal again. But it will also be stupid of me to buy every problem case I work with. I will end up with dozens of horses and neglect them myself. Then I might become what I now despise. That is why I was hoping to find on this forum people with a love for horses, not just for there own horse but horses in general. People that understand where I'm coming from, how I can't see a horse suffer without trying to help. I know I can't change the world but I might be able to change the way a couple of animals live in it. That is good for me. It's because we always want to complaint but are not prepared to do something that the world is in this mess. So all I was asking for was advice. Where do I go from here. I thought this would be a great place to ask because there seems to be alot of knowledgable people.
Thanks to all the peoply that gave advice and I am sure that with help I can safe this horse. I am a very determined person and even without help I will help this horse.