Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Greenville area / SC
Welcome to the forum!
I am of a different opinion. If I was in your position, I would sell the horse and look for one that will build my confidence rather then shake it. While it is very true that both you and Max need some professional help, it is also common for riders (especially newer ones) to over horse themselves then spend time, money, aggravation, and putting themselves in danger trying to correct the mistake they made.
Too many riders buy a horse for the wrong reasons (not knowing how you acquired your horse, this may not apply to you). They buy the first horse that looks like their ideal vision or they were given the horse, or it was a rescue, and so on. Sometimes you have to look really hard at the situation and admit that the horse would be better off in the ownership of someone more advanced.
I recently bought a mare, Bonnie, that is one of the best trail horses I've ever owned - and I've owned many. She came to me because her former owner couldn't handle her and ended up with a broken wrist because she felt she had to bail off her when they were heading home and couldn't control Bonnie. I've never had a single problem with her except that she has to know her rider is in charge. If she does not have the confidence in her rider, she takes full advantage of them. My point is that Max may be the ideal horse for someone, but not necessarily for you at this point. Take your time and build your confidence with a horse that will work for you.
I'm not arguing with you, I'm just explaining why I'm right.
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