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    09-10-2013, 08:51 PM
  #1
Yearling
Horse Withdrawals.

I had to give my thoroughbred away back in February and have only ridden three times since then. I'm going crazy! Anyone else know the feeling?
     
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    09-10-2013, 09:11 PM
  #2
Started
I get that feeling after being away for my horses for less than a week! I can't imagine going more than about 3 weeks tops without seeing my horses.
     
    09-10-2013, 09:24 PM
  #3
Yearling
I have never in my 15 years of riding taken more than a month off! And that was only due to a back injury. I was told I should consider flat work only... Wasn't happening. I miss it SO much. I still find myself getting all gitty when a Dover magazine comes in, I still have an entire tack room in my basement at home.

But thanks to my dad and his "You have to go to Flagler College in St. Augustine, Florida" ways, I had to give it all up. Around here there are no boarding barns for less than $400/mo (that's the average going rate for pasture board). Full board runs around $500-$700. And as a college student with a non supportive parent, it makes it really hard. He told me when I first came down here that I had to go a semester without a horse, but if my grades were good, I could pay to ship my own horse down here and pay for him myself... Which I decided against because I would be home for 3 months for summer and a month for Christmas and could not afford to ship my horse 12 hours 4 times a year.

My dad told me the day I bought my horse that it was stupid and a waste of money and that one day I wouldn't be able to afford him anymore... He told me not to ever come to him asking for money for an expensive vet bill or because I couldn't afford board that month. Well, I was out to prove to him that I could do it. And I was doing great up home in Maryland. Working two jobs, sometimes not making it out to the barn until 10pm. But it was totally worth it. Horses are my life. I planned to go to college in South Carolina and ride on the equestrian team and show. He, however, made sure that I wouldn't be able to make it work by telling me I could only go to Flagler, which I hadn't even originally applied to.

I cried so hard the day I had to make the decision to give him away. I decided no amount of money could ever replace the perfect home for that horse. So I spent my time instead of trying to get a price, trying to find a match. He now calls a 16 year old girl his best friend.

And now I'm just sitting on my butt (well, I did join a gym, but it's not the same!) looking at horse websites, classified ads, craigslist ads, and scrolling through various forums such as this, getting my horsey high from other people.
     
    09-10-2013, 09:56 PM
  #4
Green Broke
I'm in my third year of college and I still get these withdrawal feelings. I had to stop riding frequently when I started college because I was out of state and there aren't stables near-by. I was also only home every three months. So I couldn't ride frequently anymore. Instead I stay on this forum and keep in touch with my riding instructor and I ride when I can when I go home. I don't think they ever go away but they do lessen over time.
     
    09-10-2013, 10:05 PM
  #5
Yearling
I'm in my fourth year of college, but I went to a local community college for two years avoiding "real school". It's so miserable. :( I also keep in touch with my trainer, but she doesn't have anything for me to ride right now when I'm home, so I'm just stuck. I have been emailing around down here recently looking for some sort of lessons. It's tough though where I am because the closest decent barns are probably 25 minutes away, and most of those are 'supply your own horse' facilities.
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    09-10-2013, 10:14 PM
  #6
Showing
I definitely do know the feeling!

My horse is in Lousiana, USA. I live in New Zealand. I get to go to riding lessons once every 2-3 weeks.

See about posting an ad offering to groom horses or do some care-taking duties or exercise rides (not training....exercise)

Get yourself out there, there are options!
     
    09-10-2013, 10:16 PM
  #7
Green Broke
Come to ny :)
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    09-10-2013, 10:50 PM
  #8
Foal
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Originally Posted by gotxhorses    
I have never in my 15 years of riding taken more than a month off! And that was only due to a back injury. I was told I should consider flat work only... Wasn't happening. I miss it SO much. I still find myself getting all gitty when a Dover magazine comes in, I still have an entire tack room in my basement at home.

But thanks to my dad and his "You have to go to Flagler College in St. Augustine, Florida" ways, I had to give it all up. Around here there are no boarding barns for less than $400/mo (that's the average going rate for pasture board). Full board runs around $500-$700. And as a college student with a non supportive parent, it makes it really hard. He told me when I first came down here that I had to go a semester without a horse, but if my grades were good, I could pay to ship my own horse down here and pay for him myself... Which I decided against because I would be home for 3 months for summer and a month for Christmas and could not afford to ship my horse 12 hours 4 times a year.

My dad told me the day I bought my horse that it was stupid and a waste of money and that one day I wouldn't be able to afford him anymore... He told me not to ever come to him asking for money for an expensive vet bill or because I couldn't afford board that month. Well, I was out to prove to him that I could do it. And I was doing great up home in Maryland. Working two jobs, sometimes not making it out to the barn until 10pm. But it was totally worth it. Horses are my life. I planned to go to college in South Carolina and ride on the equestrian team and show. He, however, made sure that I wouldn't be able to make it work by telling me I could only go to Flagler, which I hadn't even originally applied to.

I cried so hard the day I had to make the decision to give him away. I decided no amount of money could ever replace the perfect home for that horse. So I spent my time instead of trying to get a price, trying to find a match. He now calls a 16 year old girl his best friend.

And now I'm just sitting on my butt (well, I did join a gym, but it's not the same!) looking at horse websites, classified ads, craigslist ads, and scrolling through various forums such as this, getting my horsey high from other people.

That is just awful. I am so sorry you have a parent who is so dead set against what you love to do. You'll get back into it, and you'll be happy you have your education-because then you can get a good job and pay for it and prove it to your father. Keep on keepin on
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    09-10-2013, 11:20 PM
  #9
Green Broke
This reply may come as a shock, but after reading your entire post, my thought is this :

You are an adult.

You have already proven your ability to work, and work hard to make your way, and go to school. (There is nothing wrong, btw, with community colleges as they often provide students with a greater student/professor ratio).

Think hard on this : If you can (and already have!) accomplished all of the above, then the only thing determined is that your dad (unfortunately) has a need to control you through your love of your horse. Once you see this truth for what it is, then by golly, call him at his bluff!!!!

Your dignity as an intelligent adult has been denied, and it is truly obvious you've been afraid to realize this - it is past time to stand up for yourself and your good, healthy, wholesome, positive interest in horses!

If he has objection, that is entirely his and only his problem to come to terms with - let him view a few binge drinking college parties, and the destruction those young people are causing themselves, and then let him dare to question your highly appropriate and healthy activity with horses.

Does this make sense? Your father is not going to dis-own you if you pursue your lovely and healthy dream - he may threaten, but call his bluff and go forward with these good and positive pursuits with or without his blessing, and simply enjoy- you'll see that the sun will still rise whether he likes your activities with horses or not :)
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    09-10-2013, 11:44 PM
  #10
Weanling
I'm so sorry you're dealing with that :( I can't imagine being forced to give up my boy, especially by someone for whom my happiness and best interests should be a priority.

It's no substitute for having your baby, but have you looked into a free or cheap partial lease? A lot of people have others ride their horses for extra exercise or while they're away at college. Even if you have to drive a bit (do you have a car or a friend who could loan you one or drive you?) it would be worth it to ride once a week or so.
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