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post #11 of 16 Old 09-10-2013, 11:05 PM
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I'm so sorry that you're in that position! I feel you! I've recently been grounded from horses due to an injury... or two.... or three compounding. It's taken away my college (I've had to leave on deferment) which was a devestating blow, and now it's taken me away from my horse. I was already fretting about leaving her to go to college where I'll have no horses, and I don't think I'll be able to bring her up, and now for three months I've only been out to see her twice and it's killing me. Are there any trainers you could work with down there? I worked (and work) under a trainer where I board my horses and when I couldn't ride her due to her being underweight from her age the trainer worked it so that I could ride some of her personal/training mounts. Other boarders also let me ride theirs. Up in the town I was moving to that's where I started to look. I'm sure if you put yourself out there someone will need a horse worked or be willing to share! As for your dad: do what you love to do, it's your life. I'm not in your position so I won't tell you do X or Y or Z, but my dad sorta did the same thing after I got injured and for a few weeks things were rocky, and then I told him to back off because no matter how many times I got hurt I was always gonna be back on the horses. I hope everything works out soon!
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post #12 of 16 Old 09-10-2013, 11:14 PM
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I agree with Northern star...I think you've proven yourself and you shouldn't be controlled by him anymore. Especially when it's a positive, healthy hobby. It is manipulative and you need to cut that control as soon as possible or else it will start seeping into other aspects of your life. "you can't get married IF..." "you can't live there IF...", etc. I know it may be hard, not sure your relationship with your dad, but he WON'T disown you, and he WILL always love you. But this life is yours to live and you're old enough to decide for yourself.
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post #13 of 16 Old 09-10-2013, 11:52 PM
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I know the feel, and it sucks. My horse is in Texas, and I live in Colorado... Though I am in the process of moving there.

Hang in there! Good luck finding a lesson barn <3
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post #14 of 16 Old 09-11-2013, 09:19 AM Thread Starter
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it's only until I graduate that my dad has control. he is paying for my schooling and housing because he wants me to graduate from this school, so I can't exactly give up an opportunity to go to school for free so that I can have a career and not just a job. and I already have gotten as far away from him as possible in other senses. when I was home, I didn't live with him (I lived with my super horsey supportive boyfriend), I was paying all of my own bills, and I wasn't asking him for anything.

so, as much as I wish I could just transfer schools, prove him wrong, etc, I have to wait another year or two until I graduate and can move back home and get back on with my life.

I refuse to give up horses entirely, and one day I will have them back. I kept all of my stuff for a reason! my mom is really supportive as well, but my parents are divorced and she doesn't have the money my dad has, so as much as she wants to help, it's harder for her. before I gave bean away, she was going out several times a week just to give him some treats and a pat (she's not a very horsey person, but she tries!)

I am trying to take lessons down here so at least once a week I can go out n ride. I do have a vehicle, but it's a lifted jeep that rocks 12mpg. haha, so the closer the better. I've been looking for a job to help, but everyone is looking for people who can work through Christmas and summer, which I am not around for.
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post #15 of 16 Old 09-12-2013, 12:33 AM
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A free ride to school is very hard to turn down. I think you should finish your education and pursue owning a horse afterwards. For now, find a barn to take lessons at, volunteer wherever you can, and maybe try to find someone who needs help getting their horses out. Before you know it, you'll be done with school, starting your career, and able to pursue anything you want.

Also, I'm sorry your dad is being so difficult. Parents can be real bullies sometimes. Hopefully, he'll be proud of your riding accomplishments one day and will realize what a bully he has been.

Strength is not defined by physical ability. It is determined by your actions and the compassion of your soul.

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post #16 of 16 Old 09-14-2013, 10:06 PM
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I have mental conditions, it's really not... safe... to be away from horses too long for me. The one time I took months off, turned into one of the most monumental events in my life. Not all that fun. Even now that I have my horse on my property and can see her every day, at least for basic care, I start getting real anxious and grumpy if I don't ride. It isn't simple exercise, because I sprint, jog, and do jumpstyle dancing to help drain out my energy and cope. It's everything about riding, the feel, the communication, y'know... Once you get a taste for it, you're hooked!

Nice thing is, I remember being a freshman in highschool and having to take leave in the middle of class to sprint up and down the courtyard almost every day because my panic attacks were so severe. I would start hyperventilating and my heart rate becomes psychotic. So the anaerobic exertion would force my body to re-adjust. But, in the past four years, I have sprinted about 3 times to literally run from my PA's. It's a quick fix. Horseback riding 6 days a week is what makes the difference, I consider it part of my medication regime.
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