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post #161 of 296 Old 06-15-2013, 04:51 AM
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Lastly, there is nothing wrong with being gay. If you do not want to risk the chance that somebody think you are gay, you might as well just stay home and never leave, as people will think what they want, regardless of what is true. You could be the straightest person on the planet and somebody might think you are gay.... that is just how the world is these days, quick to label and quick to judge.
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Lastly, there is nothing wrong with being gay. If you do not want to risk the chance that somebody think you are gay, you might as well just stay home and never leave, as people will think what they want, regardless of what is true. You could be the straightest person on the planet and somebody might think you are gay.... that is just how the world is these days, quick to label and quick to judge.
The whole aversion to people labeling him as gay strikes me as Homophobia.

As we all know, there is nothing wrong with being gay, bi, transgender, pansexual, whatnot.

But I've been told that people who are homophobic tend to have latent homosexual tendencies.

Either that, or the whole teen angst thing is seriously getting out of hand. Really? If people are going to think you're gay, nothing you can do to change that. Trust me, once you get a few more years older, you will stop caring so much about what misinformed people "think" about you!


PS) I seriously doubt not getting a call back is due to your having male body parts.

That was my whole point, since more than half the time *I* have trouble getting calls returned from trainers/boarding facilities, and I most definitely posses girl bits. Just saying.
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You find a good barn and get some lessons under your belt and enjoy it!

There is something about horses that calls out to us - that's why we do it although some people born or come into the sort of circumstance where riding horses is a part of their daily lives. Lucky people for the most part, I think!

Love of riding is not for everyone but when you are called to it, it's a call to joy.

You will see it in the love riders have for all these beautiful animals, in how we enjoy grooming them and checking their bodies to be sure they're okay and how we fuss over them and give them treats and fret if they're getting too fat or too thin or too old. They are our companions and their bodies give us something we can't give ourselves. And they learn, are trained to GIVE their bodies to us so we can ride on their backs.

Riding is about horses, right down to their hooves and how they entrust them to you every time you step into their stall or get up on their back.

You will learn to ride, but you will also learn by watching your horses ears and feeling your horses timing and how he is moving that day that your horse is learning, sometime struggling to understand you, too.

Don't worry about snark or about girls. Girls that ride, that are riders will LOVE anyone who loves horses and riding. That's how it is. I can't speak to the social but I can to the riding.
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What riding style should a male learn?
Try them all. The way I started was I took whatever lessons I could get. I started on western, I took some basic english lessons, I went back to Western, quite by accident, fell in love with it and will take whatever lessons I can to advance my Western riding. So I may take huntseat, just to work on cantering and balance.

Western gait is more relaxed. It came out of ranch work and traveling across the country to settle the west. We want our horses head to drop and the body and legs to stretch. Traditionally, the gait is slower. (traditionally. Not saying that's necessarily HOW it's ridden, only how it's taught and described.)

English gaits (how the horse is moving forward) are faster in general.

The saddles are different. English is smaller, more efficient, lighter, too. You have much more contact with a horse's body. I loved that feeling.

Western saddles are big old things with lots of places for rings and bags and ropes and stuff like that. They're also heavy as hell but I love them. It's like riding in a big recliner. You dont' feel the body as thoroughly as you do with English saddles, but with a horse, that's relative. They're so big it's hard NOT to feel them.

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But they might think I'm gay. Horse riding isn't the sort of thing they'd picture me doing.
okay. I'm guessing this is the cause of your doubt.

I can tell you from experience, sometimes the people you love, even the people you depend on aren't going to be as supportive of you as you might hope.

Present this to your parents. Don't be upset with them if they don't understand or support you. It'll hurt but you've already half prepared yourself for that possibility.

Next question is: are they willing to pay for lessons? If not then you have to go to plan B, which is you need to pay for lessons yourself with a part time job or some savings you may have (look into group lessons and buying them the most economically which can be in a group of five or ten lessons) or find a barn where they'll exchange riding lessons for work. You're young, presumably strong (if you're not, you will be once you start riding.)

I'm not sure of the laws in your state, whether or not you can ride without your parent's permission, but I imagine if you're willing to work to pay for lessons, your parents will support your commitment and sense of responsibility and at least permit you to pay for your own if they're not willing to pay for them.

What may help you is your parents seeing your determination and maturity. Being doubtful of your own sexuality is a bad place to start. I'm going to give you a piece of advice here and that is to quit asking if it's masculine to do anything.

All your life, you're going to be called to do things, you're going to be drawn to activities and interests, you will find you have may have born skills and natural talents to do - like cooking, like sewing, like caring for others (being a doctor). You have to go into them not caring about whether or not what you'd like to do, where you'd like to go or be fits "other people's" ideas of what you "should" be doing.

Your life is only yours to live. ONLY YOURS. You will live your life inside your body for as long as grace allows. One day you will die. Don't die wishing you had had the courage to persue your dreams. Let love and courage define you. Not other people.
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If people think you are gay, so what? As long as you stay in fairly civilized parts of the world, the worst that will happen is that you will have to turn down the occasional advance. As they say, BFD
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Not to be rude but seems the redundancy just keeps going. And its a bit creepy (IMO). Starting to think someone just wants attention and if I am wrong I am sorry but just ride **** it!

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Why would that be your first concern? Controlling a large animal that has the ability to seriously harm you (or worse) is not particularly on a gay prson's agenda. Gays are everywhere, but the horse life style may not be their first choice of recreation. I mean no offense to anyone,don't have much life experience on this subject.
no offense taken. But I want to say this because there IS that falacy that gay men are weaker or less interested in Type T activities, which isn't necessarily true or untrue. I will say a very good friend of mine is very gay and he's a hell of a rider. You'd never think he was straight.

It's very possible that if it turned out statistically fewer gays participate in certain sports it might be because they believe or have been shown they'd be unwelcome. And in some places being unwelcome can mean unsafe and possibly worse. Seriously.
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no offense taken. But I want to say this because there IS that falacy that gay men are weaker or less interested in Type T activities, which isn't necessarily true or untrue. I will say a very good friend of mine is very gay and he's a hell of a rider. You'd never think he was straight.

It's very possible that if it turned out statistically fewer gays participate in certain sports it might be because they believe or have been shown they'd be unwelcome. And in some places being unwelcome can mean unsafe and possibly worse. Seriously.
Basketball isn't super popular with gay individuals.
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