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post #31 of 296 Old 06-09-2013, 09:31 AM Thread Starter
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I just don't know what to say to my parents.
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post #32 of 296 Old 06-09-2013, 09:35 AM
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Tell them you'd like to try horseback riding.
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Tell them you'd like to try horseback riding.
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But they might think I'm gay. Horse riding isn't the sort of thing they'd picture me doing.
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post #34 of 296 Old 06-09-2013, 10:08 AM
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Dude, you have to chill out, riding a horse is in no way a reflection on ones sexuality, even if you were gay, who cares, people can get it on with, men, women, men and/or women or even barn yard animals for all I care, assuming its all consensual, and really I'd have thought we (humanity) could have gotten over all the hang ups on that score by now. However if people you know have a problem with people of non-standard sexuality, riding a horse has nothing to do with it.
You could try an experiment. Go to your nearest Rodeo, climb up onto the chutes during the saddle bronc and question the manliness of all the guys there present and see what type of reaction you get; tell them they all look like they come from Broke Back Mountain, and see hat happens. If you want to strap on to some sort of manly thing, take Dressage for example, if you decide to learn it. Sure, women may be the dominant demographic when it comes to horses now but think about where it originates. I could be wrong, I have never done dressage, though I have been riding horses for over 30 odd years, but I was under the impression that the skills taught in dressage have their origins in the necessity to control a horse in battle and execute extremely fine and coordinated movements that unite horse and rider into one unified killing machine. My own great grand father actually fought in battle from the back of a horse in the first world war as an officer in some British cavalry unit.
Where I grew up you weren’t a man unless you could ride a horse, if you couldn't, as perhaps as misogynistic as it is, it was believed you should stay at the house “with the women” and cook, not get on a horse and work cattle with “the men”. Yes, it is a good thing that that kind of attitude is a thing of the past, perhaps still taking its time to die in some quarters, but on the way out all the same; after all I know there are a bunch of women on this site who, by the looks of it, could match a man every step of the way working if not better. By the sounds of it you may be making more out of it than there needs to be made. Just go learn to ride and anyone who has a go at you, screw them, its some of the most fun and most rewarding stuff you will ever do.
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Oooo, ooo, I got it. The ultimate response if "the guys" give you a hard time:

"Oh yeah? If riding is such a girlie-sport, how come we have to wear helmets and flack-jackets?"

People at the higher levels have quite the work-out regiments as well. I'm hoping some of them will post.
Actually most of us don't "have to wear helmets....." unless you're a under a certain age (usually around 14-16) in certain states.
If we did I'd spend most of my money paying fines or most of my time in the county lock-up
I was over 50 before I even owned a helmet (when my grandchildren wanted to ride).

The shift in more women riding (in general) than men is actually a relatively new thing (those of us who've been riding over 40 years got to witness it). Use to be that women only really had more numbers in certain areas of showing and mostly it was girls up to their very early 20's and younger.
When I first stated riding (ok, I'll date myself here) in 1968 (age 11) there might have been 2 girls in the group of about 8 and they didn't last 6 weeks before they quit.
It's only been in the last 6 or 7 years that a woman (I'm sure more than just one has made it now, but it's still dominated by men) has managed to pass the test to be admitted as a rider at the Spanish Riding School (but in fairness it's a tough test and most men can't pass it either....one of my childhood fantasies as a boy growing up in Deutschland).
Men are still very well represented in Cross country eventing and while I haven't done it in years I'm sure they still make up higher % of riders working cattle.

I blame it on girls though .
If high school girls hadn't started wanting to ride in nice cars vs wanting the boy to visit them on horseback then more boys would be wanting to ride (my girl friends were happy to go out in my flatbed farm truck since we had horses).
Horses are still a "girl magnet" , but most girls still want a guy with a nice car. And of course the boys haven't quite picked up on the fact that with the cars they are one of many fish in a huge pond being fished by girls. With the horse, while the pond is smaller, they're one of the very few fish in a pond with barely enough shore line for the number of girls crowding around it (and most of the girls are in good shape ).

I can think of far more reasons for a guy to take up riding then I can not to (money being the only reason not to).
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But they might think I'm gay. Horse riding isn't the sort of thing they'd picture me doing.
If your not then you have nothing to worry about! I think its really ashame how much we stress what is feminine and masculine and right and wrong. It's nothing more then stereotypes! It has nothing to do with sexuality. If dancing, gymnastics, horseback riding or being a stay at home dad makes a man happy it doesn't make him any less of a man, or gay either!
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Why would that be your first concern? Controlling a large animal that has the ability to seriously harm you (or worse) is not particularly on a gay prson's agenda. Gays are everywhere, but the horse life style may not be their first choice of recreation. I mean no offense to anyone,don't have much life experience on this subject.
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I don't know where you live OP, but in these parts, horseback riding is not viewed as a "gay" activity.
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But they might think I'm gay. Horse riding isn't the sort of thing they'd picture me doing.
While I'm sure there are some, I don't know a single homosexual man who rides (can't say that about women , but I only know one).

Any male who thinks riding horses isn't something a man should do hasn't seen the "target rich" environment that horseback riding is for men with the excessive number of women riders. And not that you'll need it, but if you want to make yourself even more popular learn to trim feet (they might take you to dinner )
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But they might think I'm gay. Horse riding isn't the sort of thing they'd picture me doing.
Be whoever you are. Do what you want to do. Don't worry about what other people think. And anyway even if horseback riding is "gay" or "feminine" so what? Those aren't inherently bad things... but I think you'll find that the broad category of "equestrian sports" can encompass all sorts of people. If you feel the need to be really masculine you can always get into rodeo and other western disciplines... but you should do what really interests you. Otherwise, what's the point?
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