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    06-09-2013, 10:23 AM
  #41
Yearling
Honestly, um, one of the first thing that's going to come to most parent's minds isn't "Is my son gay?", but "How much is this going to cost?". ;)

But then again, I"m not one for gender roles etc....I'm actually hoping to put my daughter in Krav Maga when she's older, because it's B.A. So to speak...think people will "think (she's) gay"? TBH even if they do, I am pretty sure neither one of us will care ;)
     
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    06-09-2013, 10:32 AM
  #42
Trained
If your parents are worried that riding isn't manly enough, show them this website and tell them you would like to ride western. When you are a bit older, you can switch to English if you wish, or take up jumping - which is the most dangerous type of riding, statistically.

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I honestly don't think of riding as a male/female thing. It is more like judo - balance and mind. It is also a sport that rewards boldness and courage. Not stupidity...but courage.

And of course, there is jumping, which is for the psychotic ( ):



     
    06-09-2013, 10:47 AM
  #43
Weanling
Ever considered asking to maybe work at a ranch?

At a ranch you would be able to work with other guys, you would get to ride western (probably), and maybe get paid.

You probably wouldn't get riding lessons, but I'm sure the other guys would give you tips.

Not saying there aren't girls on ranches but at least you won't be at a barn dominated by women. Haha. In my opinion it would be less stressful, I kind of learned on my own. I had my mom take pictures and I would have my more experienced horsey friends critique them and tell me what to improve on say in my position.

You could even ask to maybe not so volunteer at a ranch but just try it, ranching and riding at a barn is wayyyy different.
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    06-09-2013, 10:54 AM
  #44
Green Broke
You ever notice (IMO) that when (some) men cannot do something, they call it girly (my ex was that way)??? Just wanted to throw that out there.
     
    06-09-2013, 10:58 AM
  #45
Yearling
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Originally Posted by futuredoctor    
But they might think I'm gay. Horse riding isn't the sort of thing they'd picture me doing.
Here's my opinion as a (straight) male English rider:

Yes. There is going to be a very small percentage of people who will probably think you are gay. Stereotypes are always going to exist and the world of equestrian sports is no different. The majority of male riders that I personally know are as straight as can be. I obviously know a few gay male riders but they are definitely the minority.

Some disciplines will obviously have more opinions regarding your sexuality than others. If you do a Western discipline, no one will probably ever think you are gay. However, if you pick up dressage or hunter / jumper then there will be some people who have that foolish opinion. I'm not 100% sure where the stereotypes come from with English male riders but I would suspect it has to do with the breeches and tall boots. (You don't have to wear either if you don't want too.)

I ride English (jumper) and was the only guy at my barn for the longest time. Then one of the girls convinced her boyfriend to come, referencing me as a straight male rider since he had the same concerns... and now we have 4 or 5 male riders there and no one thinks any of them are gay. You have to push these silly concerns out of your head and choose a discipline that looks the funnest to you. I delayed my riding career for the exact same reason (worrying what others thought!) and it was one of the biggest regrets...
     
    06-09-2013, 11:31 AM
  #46
Showing
Don't let others define you or allow their opinions to restrict you from doing the things for which you have a passion. I'm not even sure why anyone's sexuality should be considered an issue in ANY sport. It has absolutely nothing to do with their athletic abilities and talents.
     
    06-09-2013, 11:37 AM
  #47
Banned
I guess I'll just go for it, I'm also a little bit nervous about riding for the first time, I'll probably suck.

I think I will tell my parents that I'm doing it for polo or something.
     
    06-09-2013, 01:05 PM
  #48
Yearling
I'm with the crowd here telling you to go for it! Yes, you will probably suck at your first lesson but everyone does. Trying something new, be it controlling an animal you've never communicated before or riding a bike is hard the first few times you do it. The rush of actually starting to master controlling your lesson horse and progressing onto bigger and better things however makes all the hard work worth it!


I work at a barn that gives riding lessons to beginners and we have multiple male riders ranging from ages 6-65 and that is not an exaggeration. Our oldest student is a retired war vet and has a passion for the precision and teamwork required for dressage. He's the sweetest man who brings his wife on the days he doesn't have lessons to give his horse carrots. None of us ever think to question his masculinity, breeches, riding boots, dressage whip and all. Then there is the father and son team I work with personally. They came because the boy had an interest at age 10 and after a few months the father wanted to give it a try. They both love the times I let them canter on trail and they wish I wouldn't yell at them for going so fast! We've had teen boys take lessons from us as we'll. We're fortunate to have more then a handful of internationally ranked gran Prix riders on the property, who are male, to be great role models for our guys.

If you are so worried about sexuality maybe find a western trainer in your area to start at? Polo is an awesome sport and very rough, it's a contact sport that's for sure, but don't force yourself into a team sport to make it appear you are not gay. Ranch sorting, roping, extreme cowboy...there are some great examples on this page I hope you look at them all.

I wish you the best of luck. I would hope you're parents love and support you enough to help you try any new things you want. Maybe tech them about the discipline you truly want to try and they'll see few horse sports are for the faint of heart.
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    06-09-2013, 01:13 PM
  #49
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Originally Posted by Zeke    
I'm with the crowd here telling you to go for it! Yes, you will probably suck at your first lesson but everyone does. Trying something new, be it controlling an animal you've never communicated before or riding a bike is hard the first few times you do it. The rush of actually starting to master controlling your lesson horse and progressing onto bigger and better things however makes all the hard work worth it!

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I wish you the best of luck. I would hope you're parents love and support you enough to help you try any new things you want. Maybe tech them about the discipline you truly want to try and they'll see few horse sports are for the faint of heart.
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Originally Posted by jinxremoving    
Some disciplines will obviously have more opinions regarding your sexuality than others. If you do a Western discipline, no one will probably ever think you are gay. However, if you pick up dressage or hunter / jumper then there will be some people who have that foolish opinion. I'm not 100% sure where the stereotypes come from with English male riders but I would suspect it has to do with the breeches and tall boots. (You don't have to wear either if you don't want too.)
But If I don't wear breeches and tall boots I won't have the opportunity show off my amazing body.
     
    06-09-2013, 01:20 PM
  #50
Trained
Yeah, you'll probably suck the first time you ride. Pretty much everyone sucks the first time they ride. Some of us suck longer, too...

There will be plenty of 14 year old girls who will ride better than you for some time. Starting at 50, and lacking any aptitude for riding, there are plenty of 14 year old girls who can ride rings around me. Some of those 14 year old girls were riding as little kids, too.

I rarely ride around others, but I can honestly say no one has ever laughed at me - not to my face, anyways. Every teen girl rider I've run into who found out I liked riding horses thought it was great. I've heard things like, "I wish my Dad would ride with me sometimes". I've never had any female of any age try to discourage me from riding horses.

Well, maybe one. When I was 25, I made an attempt at learning to ride. I only had 8 weeks before the military was going to send me to the Philippines. I took jumping lessons from a very pretty young woman. The lessons, IIRC, consisted of putting me on a variety of horses and jumping a variety of things, helmetless and with no actual instruction. Looking back, she may have been trying to eliminate my genes from the gene pool. I'm surprised I didn't kill myself. It didn't help that I spent more time looking at her than at the jumps...which may have been why she was trying to kill me!

If you work at it, you won't suck long. That is one of the great things about starting young. Your body won't handicap you with 5 decades of bad habits, tightness and old injuries.
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