Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: France, near Dunkirk
• Horses: 0
I would add that a good trainer doesn't make you fight against your horse... I got one once, nope, twice, and though we sure made progress (we managed to canter about properly, which was hard since he is a trotter and I am not a very good rider) on some points, but everything was made by pushing-pulling, my horse was nervous and ifghting to avoid my hands and legs, he tried to run away from me when I went to take him out of his field or stall, he looked awfully apprehensive when he saw the saddle... And in the second lesson he broke his bit. I swear he did it... Because the man was saying to pull pull pull and the horse just couldn't bear it anymore, he broke it in the middle of a gallop. Fortunately he is really mild and sweet, and I only had to seat deeply in my saddle, relax and say "aaooo" and he broke to a walk. The guy said "oh my, the lesson's over I guess", so I guessed, and he said I should buy a tougher bit because mine was for the babies and my horse was no baby any more and it wa shigh time that he worked seriously (mine was in a kind of soft plastic and I didn't have any other... so I bought another one, the same but in stainless metal. I didn't use it often though), I never got any lesson with that man any more, I stopped riding like he claimed I had to, and thought about simple exercises to get my horse balanced, calm and energetic without having to fight. I even ended up riding bitless because he is more comfortable and I am far more focused and efficient without a bit.
I had other trainers though and they were just fantastic: they respected my point of view, we could talk, they took the time to explain everything, they first let you know the attitude they'd like to see, then let you try and do it on your own and just watch you, and they guide you towards the best way to help your horse do the exercise. I really appreciated because each step forward was made in a positive way, and the horse was taught to do things, not forced to, anyway my horse was happy to go to these lessons while he was really unhappy to go with the first man. SO I draw my lesson from that, a good trainer should also consider that he is training a couple, a pair, a team, and should not think that having one fighting vs the other will help...