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post #31 of 37 Old 03-07-2009, 06:05 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks for the interesting ideas, I'll be sure to use them :)

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post #32 of 37 Old 03-08-2009, 10:21 AM
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You need to find an older horse that has done it all and will be quiet and forgiving of your riding. As you get better, you will learn more and more and it will allow you to ride younger and fresher horses.

My first horse was a 15 year old mare who had done it all and every subsequent horse after that was younger and greener.

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post #33 of 37 Old 04-06-2009, 11:00 PM
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Has anyone taught you the one rein stop, or the concept of disengaging the hind end? After many years of leasing, I bought my first horse, an OTTB, at the age of 40. I was more than aware that getting hurt was not an option since I am my sole income provider. My horse is a saint for the most part, but he has his "happy" moments, his share of spooks and times when he really wants to catch up with the horse in front of us on the trails. I found out something very powerful that horses don't seem to know. That is, unless we prove it to our horses that we cannot control them, they don't know it. How do you control them? It's all in the hind end. If you can, have your trainer show you the one rein stop. All it is involves taking off all leg pressure, sitting deep, letting one rein go loose while pulling the horse's head around with the other. Practice it at the walk, then the trot, and when you get really good at it, the canter. The idea of the one rein stop is, if you take away the horse's ability to run off on a straight line, you take away their power. Most horses learn the concept very quickly and will come to a halt as soon as they feel you start to take up contact on the rein. Once they know you have this move in your tool box, they quickly loose interest in bolting. You have to catch them before they get into full bolt mode or else you can throw them too far off balance, but it's safe to use within the first two steps or so. At worst, you make a big circle instead of sudden stop. Just use your head. Sorta fast = turn him more. Way fast = big circle.

Another tool that is very usefull is a dressage move called shoulder fore. I highly recommend learning it. If you're just walking your horse around the ring or on a trail and even think he might bolt, shoulder fore puts one of his hind legs directly under his body and again blocks straight line movement. It's a very valueable tool.

I can tell you for certain that both are extreme confidence boosters. The proof is in my ride last week. I was out on a trail just walking along like all was right with the world. Out of nowhere, my horse did this major league spook. He spun around and tried to take off. Within the few very strong strides, I dropped the one rein and just started to pull on the other and he stopped on a dime. He was still very tense and jiggy, but I was absolutely amazed at how all the training we had worked on created such an instant response. I then had to use shoulder fore for the next 100 yards or so to get him past the monster without bolting again. He wasn't thrilled about it, but I had full control all the way home. HUGE confidence booster.

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post #34 of 37 Old 04-10-2009, 10:14 PM
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Yeah, for me it is alot of practice and learning from other, more experienced trainers! I have gone to a few clinics although they are pretty expensive. I have also rented ALOT of training DVDs from which has been very helpful. I like seeing how different trainers have different teaching philosophies and styles.
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post #35 of 37 Old 04-11-2009, 07:20 PM Thread Starter
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Yeah well thanks for the tips everyone :)
Update- Horse riding is going great, my confidence is really good. I am usually on my favourite horse Sonnett, who is a very old horse. We are learning to trott now and go around poles. My trott rythm is very bad at the moment, but I've only had 2 lessons so far on trotting, and one was only at the end.
Sonnett has a very smooth trott and canter apparently and he has been a great ride for me. I am starting to be very bossy because he is such a lazy horse and was trying to cut corners, but I refused to let him cut them. We have been working in the arena, going around poles and just trotting around, and I was just getting the rythm when my lesson was over. drat. now I don't have another lesson for 2 weeks...

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post #36 of 37 Old 04-19-2009, 04:02 AM
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Funny thing is exact same thing happened to me,and i am cantering horses around arena's,ridden in the bush and doing shows. What helped me was that i started riding an older,quiet horse with an experienced,brilliant instructor and i just kept on breathing and focusing and now i have myself a lovely little 8 year old standardbred mare, who has never put a foot wrong :)
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post #37 of 37 Old 04-19-2009, 06:16 AM
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Well, I'm new to horses still. We've had a horse for about 3-4 weeks now.

My horse, kicked at me, bucked me off and all sorts of things in the first few days. It destroyed my confidence completely, I was scared to go near any horse.

Today, I rode a 14 yr old mare. She was so lazy and tired. I walked her around for about 15 mins then I finally decided I wanted to trot/canter for the first time. I did that with sucess.

After riding her for about 30-45 mins in total, I was no longer scared to be near horses as I was.

I was even game enough to get on my sisters horse, who is quite green and fidgets all the time. It all went well.

My point is, just ride an easy going horse and try and have the owner/trainer with you to point things out, they really make a difference.

Today was also the first day I've been to Pony Club. I did everything, barrel racing, pole bending etc. I had an awesome day, it's hard to believe that yesterday i was scared to even trot, or even go near a horse.

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