As I move up in my lessons I'm beginning to feel that I'm not being assertive enough while riding. Like today for example, one of the mares that I ride in lessons would jerk her head down while I was getting organized after a rest lap and would occasionally catch me off guard. Now, I want to be more assertive as I know it'll be better for both myself and the horse but I think why I don't do it is because I'm "scared" that I'll do something incorrectly and will "hurt" the horse and I think that's something I need to break away from. When on the ground I feel in complete control and don't have problems but when I'm tested in the saddle, I know that I'm not.
Since I know this is something I need to work on and it's rather important, it'll be worked on immediately--but I was just wondering if anyone else had a similar problem when beginning to ride and what helped them become more assertive?