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post #11 of 26 Old 09-09-2010, 09:24 AM Thread Starter
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yes the fall was my fault and no it wasnt my horse it was my lesson horse lucero we were jumping and i didnt get ready and ended up on his neck. i got back on after even tho it hurt my back but im still scared i spose i will just have to carry on and keep calm
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post #12 of 26 Old 09-09-2010, 09:56 AM
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Originally Posted by XxemmafuriaxX View Post
yes i was going to take a month off but my instructor begged me not to she said it would make things much worse so seeing as i look up to her i took her advice it jst seems i crumble when i mount :S
!! Your instructor is correct. The more time off you take the harder to get back and get over the fear.
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post #13 of 26 Old 09-09-2010, 10:17 AM
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Do some riding and forget about jumping for a bit. Is there a really calm horse they can put you on. If you are scared that will translate to the horse.
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post #14 of 26 Old 09-09-2010, 10:33 AM
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I was having major confidence issues also. My situation was different but I was still scared non the less. I dont know if this will help you or not but I started thinking about it like this...... I can be scared every second of riding thinking about the what ifs that may never happen or I can just let the chips fall and enjoy myself. Worrying will not stop it from happening. These are the things I think. I hope it helps at least some. Good luck and keep us posted!!!

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post #15 of 26 Old 09-09-2010, 10:36 AM Thread Starter
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thankyou everyone for your replies my boyfriend has just rang me and said we are going for a little hack out this afternoon to see how i go, if i feel uncomfortable i stop as simple as, but i need to keep riding and my next lesson is on tuesday and i will let you all know how it goes thanks again
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post #16 of 26 Old 09-09-2010, 10:42 AM
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been there big time!! I came of a mustang that I had adopted and broke my wrist. That was 4 years ago. I've only ridden a few times since then and honostly i was waiting for something to happen every time. We just got a colt a few weeks ago and part of me is dreading when he's ready to start training next year. Guess i'll have to take it one step at a time and see what happens
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post #17 of 26 Old 09-11-2010, 02:30 PM
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Several months ago I was mounting bareback on my stomach when Kelty spooked and bucked off into the sunset.

I ended up on the concrete covered in blood.. fingers on my right hand still dont work great! I had seven stitches in my elbow (thats what I landed on) I had road rash, I sprained my ankle.. I was a mess..

Due to the stitches, I couldn't ride (couldn't bend the elbow) for a few weeks.

When I got back on Kelty, I was a basket case.. I couldn't shake my fear that something else would happen, that I would ruin his training.. My trainer went through several lessons with me bawling and tense.. She was patient though.

She convinced me to come on a trail ride with her and some of her friends at a really nice ranch a couple weeks ago, and of course, Kelty was angel. He had been all along, but this experience really made me trust him, and myself, again!

I COMPLETELY know how you feel, and sometimes it seems like you can't even help it. Just take it slow, and be sure to have a trusted friend or trainer along for support when you go out of your comfort zone! try some new things, and just be receptive to trusting your own riding abilities, and your noble steed, again.

you'll get it back! And it is better to "get back on the horse" as they say.

hope it works out for you :)

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post #18 of 26 Old 09-11-2010, 02:35 PM
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don't be ashamed of this. just start from the beginning and work up to were your comfortable. just like when a horse gets scared and loses their confidence, you back up and start from the beginning building up the confidence again . :)

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"I whispered to my horse, "i'm afraid of falling" and he whispered back, "i have wings".
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post #19 of 26 Old 09-15-2010, 03:24 PM
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Oh yes, I've been there too (and maybe in some way still is...). I fell off an Arab mare and broke my wrist and a rib, so for several weeks I could not mount again. And then came summer and I was off on holiday, and when I came back I just kept finding excuses for not riding. I was a beginner at that time, and this kind of experience for a beginner can really make you think about taking up collecting stamps instead of going horseback riding.
Well, several years have passed now, and I have started taking riding lessons on a veeery calm pony, and I have to say that only now I can kind of relax and enjoy it. I still fear the trails but I do hope that one day I'll start enjoying them as well.
Best of luck, and maybe you could do some visualising excersises, trying to imagine in your head the perfect ride, and then also try to work on your breathing, make it deep and calm. You might also try singing or humming when you ride, it makes it difficult to be tense at the same time.

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post #20 of 26 Old 09-24-2010, 12:54 AM
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You are SO not alone.

Had a bad fall and spent two weeks in the hospital with 4hrs for surgery. Was scared to get back on but I was young and found a good horse and all was fine for many years. Got out of horses for a few years due to life changes.

Got back into them...bought a new horse *sight unseen*..she and I parted company our first ride and I thought I was done. But got back on and she became a trusted partner for 10 years. A second horse I bought was not a good choice (for many reasons) and that fear came back.

Since then riding for me has been both a joy and a curse :) I have bouts of fear that do not make sense to anyone else...but cause me pause anyway. I have taken lessons and plan to take more. The fear causes in me an inability to ride normally and at times I can be crowned the queen of the fetal position. haha! But some of the things I have found helpful...(keeping in mind...I am no where close to having this all figured out):
*hum or sing when nervous (as someone helps me remember to breathe..which stops when the fetal position comes on)
*take a bossy horse friend with you (they can yell at you to get out of the fetal does help..they can also talk you through your scary moments)
*lessons (which you are already doing...this is a bossy person I pay to help me lol)

Sorry for the rant (being new and all I was always told to keep my mouth shut and ears open) but I am ALWAYS looking for new ways to conquer my irrational as they are at times. I wish you luck!!
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