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post #1 of 80 Old 12-31-2011, 04:57 PM Thread Starter
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Hurt physically and emotionally..need advice please

I apologize because this is going to be long but I truly don't know what to do and need some opinions.

I am 42 years old and started taking lessons in 2009. I absolutely love everything about riding and horses in general. I am addicted.

My husband and I have been leasing two horses for a year. His leased horse is perfect for him. Mine has been dealing with some saddle fit issues and I have only been able to ride her bareback or in an English saddle for the last 4 months. I am a western rider so this is not the optimal situation for me.

Back in August, I started working with a young, green horse that the owner was wanted to give away. I won't get into details but the green + green = black and blue is very true and I realized that she was not the horse for me.

I was at work, when someone noticed my black and blue ( and green and purple and yellow) arm and asked me what happened. I told her and said I guess I needed an older, dead broke horse. She got excited and said her 74 year old mother needed to find a new home for her horse because he was't getting ridden and he was too good of a horse to just sit in a field and she would give him to the right person for free.

Sonny is a 17 year old registered qh. He is of the "Easy Jet" bloodline...which really doesn't mean much to me but I guess that is a big deal.

I made sure to do everything right. I knew he hadn't been ridden in two years so I had the owner's son in law ride him first. He was fine, a little rusty, but really calm. The first time I rode him, I was really impressed with his response to leg cues and his good brakes.

His owner asked that I not take him to the barn where we lease right away..that she wanted Sonny and I to take some time to know each other and that was fine by me. I want a vet check anyway. We arranged for me to go out to his current barn whenever I want to ride him and then once I am sure he is right for me, i will get the vet check, and then move him to his new barn.

I have been out several times...sometimes just to take carrots and groom him, and other times to ride. I had my trainer go out with me and give me a lesson on him. She rode him as well and was so impressed with him. She was amazed that he had been out of work for over 2 years. She said she didnt think there was a mean bone in his body.

I went out on Thursday and had a nice ride on him. My cell phone went off ( i will always remember to silence it from now on) and instead of spooking, he just looked around trying to find the noise.

My hubby and I went out today and I was having a great ride in the arena. I am taking it very slow with him. We trotted the barrel pattern two times and I decided to just walk the rest of the time, working on circles to help build up muscle tone.

He wanted to go to the fence line to eat, and I used rein and leg to get him to walk up the side instead. We got almost to the end of the arena when he jumped and bucked a couple of times. I came off and landed on my right side. I heard something crack and knew I was hurt pretty badly.

Hubby came running and moved Sonny away. Sonny had just stood there looking at me. I couldnt stand to be touched so I told him to untack Sonny and turn him out in the field that surrounds the arena.

After almost passing out several times, I was able to walk out to the field. Sonny came up to me and buried his nose in my hair and wouldnt leave me. He kept blowing into my hair and wouldnt leave my side as I walked to the gate.

I ended up in the visible breaks on the xrays but defintely bruised abd possibly cracked ribs. I have broken my back before and this pain is much worse. Hubby is picking up my pain meds as I type this.

But as much as my body hurts, my heart hurts even worse. If I knew why he bucked me off, I would feel better, i think.

I know I should have gotten back on to show him he doesn't win by bucking me off but my injuries didn't allow that.

What do I do? Do I give up on him? Do I look elsewhere?

Should I go ahead and pay for the vet check to see if pain could be an issue with him?

How can I ever feel comfortable riding him again?

This is my 4th significant horse related injury in 3 years. Part of the reason I am so upset right now is I have to wonder how much blame falls on me for getting hurt. Did I do something wrong today? How can something I love to do so much end up causing me so much pain?

I am sorry for rambling on...i hurt so bad and I am so sad. I really don't know where to go from here.
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post #2 of 80 Old 12-31-2011, 05:03 PM
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I couldn't tell you whether you did something wrong but I think you should stick with him. Chances are he might have seen something you didn't or maybe was just feeling a little bratty because he wanted to eat.
I would do some groundwork with him just to establish you being the boss as he seems to be a really good horse from your discription so don't give up! :]
Things always happen and sometimes for seemingly no reason but thats how it goes with horses they have their own mind.
Sorry you were hurt hope you recover fast ! :]

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post #3 of 80 Old 12-31-2011, 05:08 PM
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I don't think that it is worth giving up on this horse over this one incident, but that is just my opinion -- and you are the one that must decide if you are of a different mind. Honestly, horses, like humans, have their moments. No horse is ever truly 100% completely safe and guaranteed not to do exactly what this horse did. You could pass on him and end up with another horse that would do the same, if not worse. The fact of the matter is that with horses there is ALWAYS the risk that something like this can happen.
What you have described as happening is not a wild, crazy, unpredictable (well, anymore than any other good horse) horse that is not safe to ride or to be trusted....and that is why I, personally, would not consider it a reason to give up on him.
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Sending some cyber hugs to you. YOu sound so blue. I feel really sorry for you.
I don't think you did anything "wrong". IT's just that you didnt' know enough about this horse to really be up on his back.

Sometimes horse that appear really calm are the ones that when they get upset, really blow. Either he bucked because of some sudden pain issue or simply because you did not let him go where he wanted. Think back about this and try to remember if at the time he bucked you and he were or were not in a bit of an "argument"?

If it's pain, well then more investigation into that will clarify. Moving him on the lunge, with and without a saddle, having a lameness exam or ppexam.

If it's attitude, and that wouldnt' surprise me, then you have to go back to ground work. I think that your level of experience is not quite up to taking this one by yourself. I would get an evaluation by a trainer (did you do that already? sorry if I missed that) and if the horse is worth it (and he sounds like he is) then committ to working with him with the support of the trainer.

I can totally feel with you about the pain of being bucked off. It sucks!
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post #5 of 80 Old 12-31-2011, 05:18 PM
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I think you are beating yourself up unnecessarily over this.

Horses do crazy things. Even the calmest, most agreeable horses blow up for whatever reason.

My mare (who's a complete sweeheart) spooked at some deer passing by the arena and bolted in a crazy gallop. She took a hard left at a corner and I did not re-balance fast enough so I hit the dirt.

After I caught my breath back up I remounted and we rode the rest of the hour as if nothing ever happened. Well except I could hardly post because of the sore hip.

This seems to me that you are forming a bond with him. So that alone would make it worth it to me to get back on.
Sonny came up to me and buried his nose in my hair and wouldnt leave me. He kept blowing into my hair and wouldnt leave my side as I walked to the gate.
I've been hurt real bad this year. Bad enough to need an ambulance ride to the ER. I even thought about quitting. But I didn't because I like riding and horses too much and I figured out that as I get better my ability to ride bolts, spooks, and freakouts just gets better.
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he sounds like a very sweet horse and as if he was honestly sorry you got hurt. there may have been something that spooked him or maybe something wrong with his hooves i would have a vet check him out... used to ride a horse who was reaaaaallly sweet never spooked bucked or bolted one day i got on him and he bucked and twisted and i fell off... rider wasa checking him out after and fount out h had an abscess in his hoof!
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I don't know what the right thing to do is right now. Knowing that he's been sitting in a field untouched for 2 years worries me only because we don't know if he's green or if he's got some back issues, if he's rusty, if he's got some hidden evilness.

I'm thinking he's rusty and was feeling his oats. I think he's worth giving a little bit longer but don't go in thinking this was a one time incident or that it was something you did. Keep this in the back of your mind and be prepared in case something happens again.

Good luck to you.

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I would take the horse sounds like a good match to me
since he did come up after you fell off and got hurt

hope you are mending

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I'm so sorry you got hurt. I have to agree with the others though that you shouldn't give up on him just yet. He's been unused for a while and seems like he just needs some refresher work in the arena before taking him trailing again. I would definitely get him checked out for any pain issues too. There could be a myriad of reasons for what happened, not necessarily anyone's fault. When something like this happens like to go back to ground work. It's good for both of you.

I hope you feel better soon!
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Thank you everyone. I took a pain pill and am comfortably numb. I plan on calling my trainer tomorrow to get her opinion as well. I know she saw some major potential in him when she rode him and I know she will work with both of us if I decide to see this through.

My hubby showed me video he took of Sonny and me as I we were walking toward the gate to leave the field and go home. Sonny wouldn't leave my side and I dont know who looked sadder.

I dont like humanizing horses and I know it is questionable whether or not a horse is capable of feeling remorse, but he was obviously acting like he knew he hurt me.

Not making any rash decisions, especially while under the influence of some powerful narcotics....but all of you have given me a lot to think about.
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