@Corgi- not going to tell you what I think you should do, that's waaaay above my paygrade, but I will tell you what I HAVE done as a woman older than you who's been busted up a plenty and some of it in the last 3 or so years just like you.
Here are some things I know from experience:
1) There is no DEAD BROKE horse that's still breathing
2) Bomb proof is only for Kevlar vests
3) MOST horses will not hurt you deliberately
4) 97% of injuries are caused by something the human did, because a horse is a horse and can be expected to act like one
5) If you handle horses (note I didn't even say ride, just handle) you are going to get hurt, the degree will vary
6) Whatever you decide with this horse is right. Either you will trust him again or not, but either way, it's how YOU feel that matters and your decision will be the right one for you. At the end of the day, you have to live with him, pay for him on an ongoing basis, so whatever anyone else thinks doesn't matter one bit.
7) A lot of the time, when we get tossed it's because we've quit riding. By that I mean, we're so relaxed and kind of inattentive and we become passengers on our horses which leaves them in charge and in decision making mode. Having seen how they make decisions and get injured seriously because they don't reason well, that's not a good place to be. We need to concentrate on riding actively the entire time we're up on a horse. (Not saying this applies in your situation, but just saying it's a definite tendency for us, especially at the end of a 25 mile trail ride or something.)
I'm going to guess that because you're already pretty bonded to him, that you'll give it a try. So, here's my recommendation if you do. Have your trainer take over riding him and training him for sometime, 60-90 days to make sure that his tantrum doesn't happen again, and once you're healed sufficiently, you take lessons on a school horse that is enough to make you think and work but not enough to finish off whatever confidence you have left. Do this with as many other horses as you need to, to develop the kind of seat that will stick if he should forget himself again and throw another tantrum. Once you've built your confidence and your seat back to the sticking point, get back on him and ride him for all you're worth.
I suspect he was being pissy over the food at the fenceline and once he remembers that undersaddle and in a bit, we are not allowed to eat, he'll be over the pissy fit. Might take a couple of rides though, so hence the trainer suggestion.
I have recently had shoulder surgery because of a horse injury, and also had a crushed foot that turned into compartment syndrome and several surgeries because of that. I have been around horses all my life and can tell you the exact moment and exact thing I did that got me injured. Doesn't matter, I got hurt and that sticks with you.
Compartment syndrome is the ONE thing I've found that hurts worse than broken or cracked ribs. Try to get up and move around as much as you can, if you stay in bed too long pneumonia is a very real consequence of rib injuries. So is pleurisy and that hurts like HADES with a blower on it. Practice deep breathing and coughing as soon as you can to keep things moving around in your lungs, that will help avoid pneumonia. Yep, I've been there done that, only I came off a motorcyle and landed on a brick wall with my ribs. Not fun. I decided horses were safer.
Hoping you start to feel better soon, but I know you're hurting today! Cyber hugs (very very gentle ones)!
Last edited by Dreamcatcher Arabians; 01-01-2012 at 03:57 PM.