A young lady like you just needs to enjoy the moment.
The way I figure it, if you're paying someone for lessons, then you might as well do it their way, or, why bother taking the lessons?
Not that it matters, but are you taking the lessons because you intend to compete?
Maybe just relax and have fun with your horse and your trainer.
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.