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post #1 of 12 Old 09-01-2011, 08:25 AM Thread Starter
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Smile I am slowly overcoming my confidence issues...

I just wanted to share this, as there have been a few threads about nervous riding lately...

I took a long break from riding, from 17 to almost 30, which unfortunately brought me from a confident rider with little fear to someone who wanted off if a horse even picked his head up to look at something.

My first attempt to start riding was at a small backyard barn. Unfortunately, they just didn't have a good horse for me. The older, been there done that horse was really not capable of being ridden for more than a few minutes at a time, and the other "rideable" horse was an OTTB with serious issues from prior abuse. My confidence was getting worse instead of better, I moved on.

The next barn was a great little English show barn. I hadn't ridden English in years but I gave it a try. The horses were excellent, but the trainer just wasn't a good fit for me. While I was making progress with my riding, my nerves weren't improving. I honestly didn't appreciate being yelled at by a trainer after tough days at a stressful job. They also kept moving my lesson time earlier and earlier, which gave me 10 minutes to catch, groom and tack my horse after rushing there after work. It was a blessing in disguise when I lost my job and we decided to move.

I now live in a very rural area, and have found a barn where I am as comfortable with the trainer as I could possibly be. She understands that on a good day I'll feel comfortable loping around the arena, and on a bad day I may just feel comfortable walking. They leased me a wonderful, 16yr old QH mare that is as calm as can be and takes excellent care of me. I love my Snazzy .

They understand that I need to ride alone (there's always someone at the barn) in order to build the confidence I need. I have come a long way in a very short time, and now know that I'll accomplish my dream of having my own horses on my own property.

I'm sorry this is so long, but I thought it would be good to share. Sometimes the situation you're in (barn, trainer, horse) just isn't the right one for YOU, even though it may work perfectly fine for someone else. Take the time and energy needed to find the right situation for yourself, and everything else will happen much more naturally.
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post #2 of 12 Old 09-01-2011, 08:46 AM
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Glad to hear you're making progress. Yes, the right trainer, horse, and barn atmosphere make all the difference in the world.

Congrats, and keep us posted.

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post #3 of 12 Old 09-01-2011, 08:54 AM
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Very happy to hear you're getting your confidence back. Even experienced riders can have their confidence shaken from time to time. Snazzy looks like a sweetheart!
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post #4 of 12 Old 09-01-2011, 11:42 AM
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Congrats on getting your confidence back! I love seeing the progress people make with things like this, and Snazzy is so adorable!

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post #5 of 12 Old 09-01-2011, 12:17 PM
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Thank you for giving nervous riders hope. It can be a very difficult thing to get back in the saddle after a long time away or after a bad experience. Trust me!
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post #6 of 12 Old 09-01-2011, 12:18 PM
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Congratulations on regaining your confidence, and at a pace you feel comfortable at.

I'm not there yet, but I hope to be. It's a big achievement when you can have a good day riding and end with a smile on your face and a bit more confidence in your soul.

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post #7 of 12 Old 09-01-2011, 12:24 PM
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Congrats! Finding the right place, trainer & horse makes all the difference!

Wishing you continued success!

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post #8 of 12 Old 09-01-2011, 01:01 PM
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Congratulations!! I also am building confidence after a long break followed by a nasty fall ;) I also took riding back up at 30 after quitting as a teenager. Its nice to know someone else is going through the same thing!
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post #9 of 12 Old 09-01-2011, 03:20 PM
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It's nice to hear from others that have had confidence issues. I had two bad accidents with a horse when I was 16 and since then I've had some major confidence issues. Like you, I have good days and bad days. Having Rocky almost brought me back to my old self, but then he died last year and all my old fears came back. But its getting a lot better. Some days I'm my old fearless self and other days, I only do walk/trot because my nerves get the better of me. I used to show english, but when I moved to Chicago to go to grad school I started trail riding. That's really helped my confidence because out on trail I can just relax and enjoy the ride. Plus encountering things on trail with the first horse I rode (sweet bombproof mare) helped me realize that I'm a lot more capable than I think.

Now I'm shareboarding on a mare who is sweet and a good trail mare, but sometimes needs me to step up and be a rider when things get a little scary. Thanks again for sharing your story =)
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post #10 of 12 Old 09-02-2011, 07:28 AM Thread Starter
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Thanks everyone! It really feels so nice to enjoy riding again. I had another great lesson on Snazzy last night, she's the best!
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