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post #1 of 12 Old 12-16-2010, 03:03 PM Thread Starter
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I have become to protective over my horses

I am worried how protective i have got over my horses i hate it when people are outside her stable when they get her out for the dentist or whatever or if they walk past and give them a treat it sounds stupid but it makes me angry as they are mine and i get really jelous i wont let anyone ride them even my best friend whats wrong with me
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post #2 of 12 Old 12-16-2010, 03:08 PM
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Doesn't sound like a problem to me. I don't let anyone except my daughter ride my horse and that includes my husband. My horse is mine for a reason. I don't ride anyone elses and no one else handles mine.
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post #3 of 12 Old 12-16-2010, 03:15 PM
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Honestly I don't think its that much of an issue, unless you are starting to verbally lash out at people just for hanging around the barn. I personally have no problems if someone ASKS me if they can feed my horse a treat (while I'm there), but if they just wander by and feed her, or make a habit of walking by and always giving her something, then I get upset, because she can start to get pushy, and I hate that. I don't personally feed her treats very often, for good reason. I want to start having someone else handle her a bit, because as of right now, she won't let much of anyone else handle her, and in cases of emergency, ect, I want to feel better knowing that even if I can't get out there immediately, that someone else will be able to catch her or hold her for a vet until I can get there, but I am so picky about how she is being handled. She's in a paddock with several other horses, and I don't believe that anyone has actually messed with her, or hit her or whatever, but she's started getting head shy dealing with ropes and stuff, because a couple of the new horses like to try and bolt out of the pen when someone is taking another horse out, so we have to have a whip or something just to make sure that we are given enough space to get out, and I respect that, but at the same time, it bugs me that for whatever reason, just someone swinging the lead rope around the gate has made my horse get nervous. I will speak up and say something if someone is doing something directly at my horse, but otherwise, I just remind myself that I'm sure some of the other people at the barn feel the same way about their horses that I do about mine, and that so far we are all respecting everyone else's space.
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post #4 of 12 Old 12-16-2010, 03:26 PM
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"Only the Paranoid survive" Remember that quote. No I don't think you are being over protective at all
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post #5 of 12 Old 12-16-2010, 04:12 PM
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not a problem at all. horses are all diff and need to be handled differently and as much time and money you put into your horse you dont want someone coming along feeding them... patting them... or even riding them.
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post #6 of 12 Old 12-16-2010, 07:49 PM
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Actually, folks, I have to disagree to the degree. The more communications with other people horses will have - the more desensitize they'll be to people and won't freak out in situation when someone besides the owner should handle them for the farrier, vet, or (especially) in emergency. Of course I mean people, who know how to behave with the horse and how to manage one. And riding is the whole different story of course (there are very few people I'd trust to ride my mares), I'm talking about handling on ground.

If you are jealous that your horses will love other people - I do NOT think it'll happen if you are the one who messes with them on daily basis, rides them, and may be feeding them (and the last one not even the most important in the relation).
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post #7 of 12 Old 12-16-2010, 07:51 PM
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I don't let people ride my horse, or previous horses. My first and second horse I did - to an extent (like leading friends around), but I don't like it. I'm getting better with people handling my horse but I think the base of the matter is I don't trust other people.
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post #8 of 12 Old 12-16-2010, 08:17 PM
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I have to agree with Kitten Val. I can understand not wanting/letting anyone ride your horse or even fool with them if they have no reason to be. But to be jealous is a little extreme. My horses both will stand quietly for people who do have to touch/handle them...that is the employees of the barn, barn manager, barn owner if she needed to, vet, farrier, vet tech, my cousin and her hubby who have so graciously hauled my horses a few times when necessary. No one else can come on the property so my horses are safe!

I have let my dressage instructor and the barn manager ride my horses - Dressage Instructor rode Red and BM has rode Biscuit for me. They are both professional highly experienced women that I would trust to ride my horses. But, no, my horses are not lesson horses or anyone-can-ride-my-boy horses either. Biscuit was ridden by anyone and everyone prior to coming to me and he will not be passed around any longer.

It sounds as if you are afraid your horses will become attached to someone else but as long as you are consistently out there grooming, riding, handling them they will look to you first because you will be "theirs".

Personally, I hug and love on all of my friends and my cousin's horses. Their horses love to see me coming with a treat or a hug (I ask before treating anyone's horse!) but the more people that love them the better. My barn manager is terrific and she looks out for my horses best interest but if I was snobby to her that might not be the case!!

It is ok to be protective of your horse as I am sure most responsible owners are. I know I am extremely protective of my boys because I care about them and only want the best for them but don't let jealousy create a problem when there really isn't one.

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post #9 of 12 Old 12-16-2010, 10:40 PM
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I seem to be the minority here...

I allow my horse to be ridden by other people in lessons and I've allowed someone to take him to shows without me there. He use to be a very "one rider" horse, but has become so much easier to ride now that he has experienced a few different people. He's not a beginner horse and never will be because he's so sensitive to cues (he'll run out of a jump if your leg slips even just a little bit), but he's super forgiving and has never picked up any bad behaviors from other riders. I think it's good experience for the horse and makes them more ridable. Plus, he's a very high energy horse and it's kind of a relief knowing that he gets some of his energy out (he's also become one of the barn favorites).

The petting I'm not bothered by and I'm not too worried about treats either. I know I probably should be, but my boy loves the attention and he's not any more pushy when he get treats. He's pretty respectful to firm hands so it's never been an issue. I think I'm not bothered because he's always been so respectful of me, I know most of the people at my barn extremely well, and I trust my trainer's judgment. I've also always been an extremely laid-back person.

I'll probably be way more protective of my new horse, GQ, because he's 100% my investment horse. He'll only be ridden by me and my trainer.
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post #10 of 12 Old 12-16-2010, 10:53 PM
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Both me my brother and his partner all have horses up at my house and I like having my brother handle my horses and help out with em ride them if I'm busy or do bit training but it doesn't work the other way round my brother hates it if either me or his partner interfere with his horses gets very moody, not sure why. I also teach a young girl to ride and she swaps between couple my horses depending what she wants to learn that day which doesn't bother me either, I know I'm the first person my horses will cone running to so quite happy to have them handled treated etc, although I do have one horse who I am extremely close to who I don't really let other people deal with as much but it's as he was abused so it's more about safety
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