Originally Posted by BrokenWings
the BO has offered to give us this horse a few times when she was late. I can''t take him, it would betray her and ruin our friendship for sure. Plus, with 2 kids, I have no time for more horses. When she is late the BM always lets us know, I guess because we are friends, and I usually end up paying it more out of guilt than anything. She is totally over her head here, and I guess I am enabling her.
You said it right here you ARE enabling her to keep a horse she can't afford. I know it's hard, but stop putting yourself through a guilt trip when the BO comes to you for board. The BO should know that in a few months, HE has the right to sell the horse because technically he's been abandoned. I believe it's 30 days, but most give owners more of a chance to pay up than that; let the BO take care of this matter.
Atleast if the owner gets some warnings, and 'dates' regarding his upkeep; 1) she may all of a sudden have the funds 2) she'll realize that she can't afford him and do what's right...send him to someone who can. Just don't let her manipulate you into continuing to pay his upkeep; you have 3 of your own to worry about, and she's not willing to let you help the horse out besides paying to feed him, so the best option for him is to find a family who WILL take care of him, and use him.