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post #11 of 38 Old 10-26-2012, 01:08 AM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by alexis rose View Post
Reading your story sounded just like me and my horse when I got him. I really worked on the bond between us and just kept getting back on in a round pen. Now I can ride him along highways and on trails. He was definitely worth all the work. ;) You two look great by the way!
So good to hear. Gives me hope that one day (with hard work) we will be comfortable and trusting with each other.
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post #12 of 38 Old 10-26-2012, 01:32 AM
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If it makes you feel any better too, I am an experienced rider but my mare Selena spent the good first year of our time together trying to kill me in very creative ways. I, too, was thinking of differant ways I could dispose of her as well! She would randomly explode in bucking fits, rear and threaten to flip, jump sideways, run my into gates, bolt and not stop, but her favorite was jumping straight up in the air.

Though, now, I wouldn't trade her for the world. I don't know what possessed me to turn her into a barrel horse with all the crazy things she's done, but since I've done that she's been incredible. No more explosions except an occasion frisky baby buck, soft, supple, back to being a cool headed reiner with her sliding stops and adorable spins. Changes leads without killing me. Been packing around kids and going on trail rides (Even though when I first got her she almost impaled me on a tree...twice) ponying baby horses around, flying bareback and bridleless around the pasture, carrying flags in front of huge crowds, drill team, cow work, etc. Just incredible. I think she needed barrels because it let her blow off steam and PLAY for once in her life, instead of being punished for wanting to run and buck, she gt to channel to negative energy and make it positive. Now, she comes out of each run like "Hey, Mom, did we win?! I think we won! Where's our check?!"

There is hope for all horses. :) Even the psychotic ones. I'm not saying you should turn your horse into a barrel horse...I don't think that would help your problem at all, but just make it worse...LOL. But a lot of "Focus on me" work probably would. Like others said, groundwork is good. Also, a lot of figure eights if you feel he gets excited..And of course that trainer!

Pssh.I didn't pick up the wrong lead
It's called a counter canter...
...A very advanced maneuver.
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post #13 of 38 Old 10-26-2012, 01:47 AM
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Don't worry, OP, think nearly every horse owner has been where you're at at some point!

Groundwork is awesome IMO, but make sure you don't use it as an excuse not to ride. Give yourself a week to get your confidence back with some groundwork then schedule in riding and make yourself ride. Just keep it simple, minimise the risks and don't overface yourself or your horse. If at all possible, ride another horse in the week you're not riding yours, time out of the saddle doesn't help confidence.

Also, learn a good one-rein-stop. Think there are some good threads on this so I won't provide details here - or ask your trainer to teach you it. Once you know that that's pretty much your lifeline for anything - bolters, buckers, rearers and whatever, because horses can't do any of these things unless they're straight. It really helps your confidence if you know what to do when a horse does something dangerous - although you do need to do a ORS at the first suggestion and before it actually happens, rather than during the event (which can be dangerous if it unbalances the horse).

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Lol. Sorrel, I loved reading your last post.

Evil horse you are right about the "make myself ride". I need to ride every time I go to visit him, even if its just for a little bit.. and learn a ORS.. that would calm my nerves immensely..
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post #15 of 38 Old 10-26-2012, 03:02 AM
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One trick I tell nervous people is to sing or keep talking no matter what. Keep your voice chill, but so long as you are singing/talking you are breathing. When you are nervous, you subconciously stop breathing and your horse can feel that because your body freezes and tenses. When you sing and talk your body relaxes and moves with the rythym.

Pssh.I didn't pick up the wrong lead
It's called a counter canter...
...A very advanced maneuver.
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post #16 of 38 Old 10-26-2012, 05:30 AM
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It can be a bit tricky getting a new horse. You might find that you take them home and they turn into a completely different horse. With a new environment and without proven leadership a horse can have a totally different personality.

You have to tough it out for a while I think, but you might find that you don't have enough experience or knowledge for this horse. Good luck though, and lessons never hurt.
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post #17 of 38 Old 10-26-2012, 07:23 AM
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Give it time and take some lessons. Looks like a good boy and you will regain your confidence under the right supervision. Good luck!
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post #18 of 38 Old 10-26-2012, 11:33 AM
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You might want to read through my "My horse and I just don't click" thread. There are a few very good pointers in there that might help you out!
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post #19 of 38 Old 10-26-2012, 11:35 PM
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This sounds exactly like me... Except I'm still in that stage. I got him less than a month ago and rushed into the decision because I just wanted to get a horse fast - he didn't really meet my criteria at all and I should have looked around some more and really thought it over.
Anyway, now it looks like an expensive disaster... I only rode him once before purchasing but he was great. Since then he's been a mess, bolting all the time, throwing me off twice in two weeks. I go out and see him a few times a week and I like just standing around brushing him but when I think of riding, I get so full of dread that I have a physical reaction and feel sick. I haven't done more than a few steps of trot with him since the first week I had him.
I'm not even scared, I just don't feel any connection to him and I really don't want to ride anymore. I don't think I'd be sad if I found out tomorrow I have to sell him. I really hope we get past this... Otherwise it's going to be a tough couple years.
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post #20 of 38 Old 10-27-2012, 12:27 AM
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Good for you for realizing that the horse bonding process is slow and most of us, even those with experience have our growing pains. In my years of experience and observation it seems to take an average of about 3years to really get that bond going, and everything you do during your horses lifetime will make it's mark on that bond, either positive or negative.

Now, looking at your pics, I agree with the stirrup comment, but I also want to make a comment about the bit. It may just be the pic, but it looks like a leverage bit, and IMO those are for experienced hands and an advanced horse. Especially with a bolter, you want a lot of lateral (side to side) control. It is hard to get that with a long shanked bit because it is not a direct line to the horse's mouth......the shank gets in the way and confuses the signal. It may not seem to make sense to you at first, but go back to a basic snaffle, and work work work on lateral control in an enclosed enviornment.

Work first on flexion, then disengaging the hindquarters, then you can start practicing the one rein stop mentioned earlier. Practice it at a walk, then trot, then canter until you can do it in your sleep.

When a horse bolts, you really need to catch them during those first couple of strides that are out of control, otherwise, once they really get going, you will need some space to start circling them down, and you may not always have that. In other words, the horse goes to take off, and you get that head around immediately, disengage the hindquarters, and then decide what you need to do from there. Disengaging the hindquarters shuts them down long enough usually for you to evaluate the situation.

If you feel you are in immediate danger, get off. If you horse was just testing you, put him back to work. Working with a bolter takes some nerve, but most will knock it off when they realize they aren't getting anywhere. As others said also, working with a -good- trainer will also help. Hint: a good trainer will not suggest you put stronger and stronger bits in his mouth.....should be the opposite....going back to basics as I mentioned above. Best of luck to you, and be careful
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