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post #1 of 18 Old 06-19-2013, 11:15 PM Thread Starter
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I need advice, please help.

I am Devin Cigainero, I live in East Texas in Texarkana, TX. I have not grown up with horses or been around any. I've only owned a paint gelding for 2 years now. When I bought him I really had the intention to find someone to give me king lessons to and I could then apply it to my horse as practice. Unfortunately that did nit go to plan. My family nor friends ride, I really don't know any of the horse people around and have actually talked to them about riding,etc. the truth is there is really no one in the Texarkana area that teaches riding lessons. I have tried and tried on the Internet searching but some of the searches are incorrect or the people are too far. I go to college part time and still work 40+ hours a week and I still live with my father until I graduate from college to save on expenses. I have tried several people that have had the time to help me but either did not have the time or family issues came up. I have been looking for 1 year now for someone and I am beginning to loose hope. My father does not give squat about horses or about my horse and tells me I am over complicating the whole thing. I have dreams about showing in western pleasure and many other shows with my horse and to find people to ride with me on the trails behind my house. I live near a lake and there are thousands of acres of government land owned by Core of Engineers that you can ride on. There is a group I used to ride with but did not tin out real well be use they were mean and bitter people and I'd not want to be around them. I have attended horse shows and most come out of town and really get a little timid to ask. I have within the last couple of days been worrying about what to do, my confidence is gone, my experience in riding is very low, I have no friends to ride with. My heart keeps telling me to keep trying but my mind is telling me "no". I have also been very jealous of horse people for some reason, I'm not saying they are bad but I am getting bitter toward them everytime I see a trailer I get negative. I am in a way disappointed in my community because there are some horse people that I kno or a fact have helped ordinary people but cannot help me. I know a lot of people have lives and hard to do certain things because of family and job. There just seems to be a lot of snobby horse people in my area for some reason. I do not know what to do, do you think I just need to find a friendly horse person that could just ride with me or do I need to find a trainer? I really need an honest answer if anyone can help.
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post #2 of 18 Old 06-20-2013, 08:13 AM
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You kind of have to be responsible for yourself as far as horses are concerned. The horse community is, at least in my experience, notoriously "difficult". It can take years to break into, and even then it's not always a pal-y place. People can be nosy, rude, manipulative and just plain mean. This differs across different disciplines and clubs but I think you'll find very few people are willing to just help a random stranger. In a way, you have to prove yourself to a community. Whether it be through consistency (turning up to club meetings every month etc) or through offering your time as a volunteer, you have to give, and show you're willing to be part of the community to be accepted.

Most trainers aren't online. Go to your local saddlery or feed store and ask about. Call your local pony club, riding club or whatever you have around. Ask for details about trainers/instructors. Join and attend local clubs.

As far as riding alone, I think it's what most people. If you want to ride with others board your horse somewhere with other riders. If you only want to ride for the social aspect, maybe reconsider it as there are many more social sports out there than riding.
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post #3 of 18 Old 06-20-2013, 08:22 AM
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You sound like a nice, friendly person! Surely there are some small horse clubs around you that you could join. Maybe volunteer at 4-H, or your handicapped riding facility. Go to shows at that big fairgrounds out on the highway, (don't know what it is called, I have only driven past it) I know they have Arabian shows there. Just compliment people on the horses you like, and they will talk.

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post #4 of 18 Old 06-20-2013, 08:55 AM Thread Starter
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You kind of have to be responsible for yourself as far as horses are concerned. The horse community is, at least in my experience, notoriously "difficult". It can take years to break into, and even then it's not always a pal-y place. People can be nosy, rude, manipulative and just plain mean. This differs across different disciplines and clubs but I think you'll find very few people are willing to just help a random stranger. In a way, you have to prove yourself to a community. Whether it be through consistency (turning up to club meetings every month etc) or through offering your time as a volunteer, you have to give, and show you're willing to be part of the community to be accepted.

Most trainers aren't online. Go to your local saddlery or feed store and ask about. Call your local pony club, riding club or whatever you have around. Ask for details about trainers/instructors. Join and attend local clubs.

As far as riding alone, I think it's what most people. If you want to ride with others board your horse somewhere with other riders. If you only want to ride for the social aspect, maybe reconsider it as there are many more social sports out there than riding.
The town I live in is very small and a lot of people do not advertise anything. My cousin owns the only biggest tack and feed store in the four states area and he really doesn't keep up with any of the groups. I'm not even sure if we have a 4H club here. There's all kinds of horse groups but there are near or closer to Dallas.
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The few horse people that are in your town, have you asked about volunteering some time at their barn? Even if you start out mowing grass, its a step in the right direction. You'll have the ability to ask questions from time to time and build that trust.

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That's a search I did in Bing. I don't know if its up to date or how reptuable these places are, but its a place to start.

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Also, try looking in the phone book... I know that sounds ancient, but that's where I found my trainer.
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Also, try looking in the phone book... I know that sounds ancient, but that's where I found my trainer.
Our phone book here stinks, there's only the feed store that my cousin owns and he really doesn't stay up with the horse people. Good idea though.
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post #8 of 18 Old 06-20-2013, 10:09 AM
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What about your vet? You could ask him about trainers around your area during his next visit.

If you want to compete, having a trainer would be your best option. I met the "horse-people" I know later on in my riding career during competitions. If you're not able to find a trainer and would like to just ride for now, try going to competitions - even if you're not riding in it yet. If you're friendly, then you'll possibly meet someone to ride with, or you can just ask for a trainer recommendation there.
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Feed stores are notorious for their bulletin boards being chalk-full of tabby-adds and posters. Have you seen no connections to be made on yours?
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post #10 of 18 Old 06-20-2013, 10:13 AM
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And, excuse my saying it, but if your options are in fact so slim, you can't afford to be timid when you do have an opportunity to speak up. ;)
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