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post #21 of 30 Old 08-09-2014, 11:04 PM
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Your parents are worried, and that's a normal thing for parents. Yes, it's frustrating sometimes but there's not much you can do about that. I can guarantee that one day you'll probably be the same to your kids.

I think the thing to remember here is that you need to hear your parents' side of the argument with an open mind, and not in the mindset that you're going to give a rebuttal to everything they say. Just ask them why they feel like you should only go up to 14.2, and just try to see where they're coming from and show them that you understand. That will make talking to them about this a whole lot easier than you could ever imagine.

I agree with the other posts that you're very lucky to even have a pony at your age, but at the same time I can understand that it kind of sucks that you can't do what you've wanted to do with her. Equitation9966 has a good idea, about compromising for size. In all honesty, the 15 hand range is a great size! I ride a gelding that's 15.1 and bringing him along for hunter jumper and he's doing fine. I'm 19 years old, 5'2 and not the thinnest, but not huge either so I feel you. But at his size he's plenty to get me over jumps!

As for your "friends" making fun of the size of your pony, well to be honest, I wouldn't be that keen on staying friends with them but that's just me. It's a really immature way to act, especially about expensive animals like horses. Who needs them if they need to make fun of someone to make themselves feel good?

Just make sure that you're wanting to switch for the right reasons and not because you're getting pressured to by your barn mates because I can tell you with 100% certainty that you will regret it down the road if you do it just to fit in. But we don't know you or your parents, and we don't know the whole situation so we can't really give you any good advice on convincing them. The best way to go about anything like this is to be mature and understand where they're coming from, and calmly explain where you're coming from and try to meet somewhere in the middle.

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post #22 of 30 Old 08-09-2014, 11:17 PM
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I find nothing wrong with a 14.2 hh stocky pony, I don't get the whole hype about having a very tall horse. In my opinion it's a lot farther to fall from lol. I'm 5'4 and not the skinniest girl, but I feel comfortable between a stocky 14-15 hh horse, which is what I own.
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post #23 of 30 Old 08-09-2014, 11:32 PM
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If you go to your parents and say you want a tall horse because your friends are getting tall horses, you're never going to win.

However, if you tell them that you feel it would be better to get a horse you won't grow out of, so you don't have to go through the entire process of buying and bonding with a new horse all over again in a few short years, they may be more inclined to listen.

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post #24 of 30 Old 08-10-2014, 09:33 PM
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I've seen some horses between 14-15hh that could really jump! They would often win too purely because of their speed and maneuverability that the bigger ones lacked. If you find the right horse, there is no reason that you can't progress, and then later on if you need something bigger you can look at that.

It would be ideal not to have to buy a new horse later on, but if you're serious about jumping then the horse you get now who is suitable for a young rider will probably not be the horse seriously competitive horse you need later on. And if you're not looking for something seriously competitive, then height shouldn't be too much an issue.

Talk to your mother, tell your concerns, but listen to her as well. There are lots of reasons to get a smaller horse, be it feed costs, pasture size or just ease of handling. Not to mention, with around 16hh being the standard kind of size for mid teens these days, you can often pick up talented, well trained but smaller horses easier than you can larger.

Be considerate, listen and compromise, maybe you can find a mid ground.
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post #25 of 30 Old 08-11-2014, 07:42 AM
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You don't need anything too much bigger, lots of adults ride 15-14hh ponies/horses. If you really want a horse you could consider something just into the horses, 15hh-16hh maybe? I would never want to ride something much bigger than 15.2hh really..
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post #26 of 30 Old 08-14-2014, 11:12 AM
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Perhaps you can come to an agreement with your parents and ask if you can lesson on 14.2-15 hand horses for the rest of the summer and then possibly look for a taller horse this fall/winter. That way your parents can see how you handle a larger horse and become comfortable with the idea themselves.

I am 5'6 and own/ride a 14.3 mare.
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post #27 of 30 Old 08-16-2014, 12:52 AM
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I can definitely see why this would be difficult for you, and as a parent of girls (11-16) who ride as well, I can also see things from a parent's perspective. My own horse is a 16.3 thoroughbred (and I'm 5'2"), and he is one of the bigger horses at my barn (mostly Arabians), so people are always commenting on how big he is. At a barn with mostly jumpers, he is pretty average. I love riding a bigger horse, and man can he jump! However, I was hoping my daughters could also ride him but am nervous about letting them. Much of it is his size, as he is a bit more difficult to manage, and he has tons of suspension and my trainer says he would just throw my youngest daughter out of the saddle. So, your Mom may have some legitimate fears about getting you a very large horse at this stage. I think this is a good opportunity for you to have a talk with your mom and approach things from the point of view of finding out what her concerns are, and make sure you don't come at her with a whine about how 'all your friends have big horses now'. This is also perhaps a good opportunity to learn to compromise. Figure out what you absolutely MUST have to be able to do the riding you wish (a horse that can jump what you reasonably would like to and can do in the near future) that your current pony is lacking, but be willing to give in on minor details like the exact size. My trainer has told me more than once that those smaller horses can do everything I would need, and even my tallest daughter (5'8") is riding the 14-15 hand school horses and does just fine.
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post #28 of 30 Old 08-16-2014, 02:18 AM
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Well I guess the OP won the battle, 2 days after posting this she posted on another thread that she and her mum were going to look at a 16.2hh prospect.

I don't know if that is the grey TB that she was looking at in May, ah, but also in May it was the end of the year or next year that she was going to be looking for a new horse.

Oh another TB in June....

Not sure if the OP is just daydreaming a little about her new horse.
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post #29 of 30 Old 08-18-2014, 09:34 AM
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Firstly 14.2hh isn't a bad height - another poster mentioned Stroller here's some more info on him http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stroller_(horse).
Secondly moving up all of a sudden is a BIG change. I had an 11hh, then a 12.2hh, then a 14.1hh and then at 13 moved up to a 16.3hh straight away as fell in love him looking at 15.2hh's. He put me in hospital 5 times on his 2 week trial, he gave me whiplash, concussion, shattered my coxics, threw me over the arena fence so I rolled down a hill of stinging nettles, knocked me unconscious a couple more times and generally just bruised me. I was WAY overhorsed. However I'm stubborn and still have him 9 years on, but for the first 3 years I spent more time in hospital than I did riding and it's not fun. It's not something I'm proud of as if I'd of been more sensible I wouldn't have dodgy knes, ankles and a wrist and a clicky neck and spine at 22, and OK we got there, but don't move up to horses as everyone else does in a haphazard way, if your parents are saying 14.2hh go for it. And if you decide to stick with your 13hh for a little while longer, have you looked at mounted games? Honestly they're awesome fun and I spent about 4 years of my life doing them - plus the accuracy you need fo some of those games will give you transferable skills for showjumping for either when your parents feel you're ready to move up or for when you buy your own! And if it makes you feel any better, we brought another 12.2hh for my sister about 7 years ago, he's 23 now and I still have fun riding him very occasionally now but he's been on loan for 5 years now after my sister outgrew him to my mums neighbour for her 6 year old grandson. If you're mum's saying no I'm sure she has her reasons - and I wouldn't be surprised if it's for your safety!
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post #30 of 30 Old 08-19-2014, 07:53 PM
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Hi there! I would suggest that if you want to ride a tall horse, you should take lessons on one to see if that is your thing. This way, you don't have the expenses of another horse, and you can explore your horsey ambitions :)
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