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post #61 of 65 Old 05-17-2013, 03:56 PM Thread Starter
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I'm hoping that it is the same for other people that are in the second half of their lives, as it is for me.....I think as we get older, we let go of those things that we thought meant so much in our younger years. It's the smaller and simpler things that mean the most. I've given up a lot of my control of things and perfectionism, and have found myself so much happier. I'm not worried about being the best or winning the most....just having fun and taking care of my horses the best way I can. Life is too short for sure. So, in giving up the things I can't control, I can smile and laugh now.
So agree with this and it's funny but in pretty much all of my life, I've gotten to be very easy about "perfectionism" and "getting it just so" in favor of having fun and letting go.

But I guess I got bitten by the horse bug and more than anything I wanted to learn as much as I could as fast as I can.

I will be honest: what I was seeing was an ever shrinking window of accomplishment - and I guess I felt my best shot at being the best I could be at this late date was to jump in, head first.

And I'm learning fast, and give myself credit for trying to do what I can to be as good as I can, but there's only so much I can do, can be at this stage of my life. I don't want to kill myself. I just want to be able to ride well and not be afraid of anything that comes my way. For example on that trail ride I spoke of (where I fell off) I also experienced my first jump after the fall. We had no choice but to go over a log. I set myself up as best I could with no knowledge but I was scared. We made it but it scared the heck out of me. And especially afterwards when I read how I should have set myself up. So I thought maybe I should take a jumping lesson or two, just to learn how.

Well now, after landing square on my keister from a pretty big horse going pretty fast - I'm rethinking these ideas of mine. Maybe I should take it slower.
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post #62 of 65 Old 05-17-2013, 07:28 PM
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I think you have a lot of supporters, even though we are via internet. We all feel ya. Just have fun!
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I will be honest: what I was seeing was an ever shrinking window of accomplishmentNo What we all suffer from is an ever-shrinking window of physical ability. That means we have to be more creative than ever to accomplish our goals.

- and I guess I felt my best shot at being the best I could be at this late date was to jump in, head first. I still jump in head first but, these days "head first" does not resemble "head first" when I was 30
I have Grade III Spondoliothesis and don't ride an inth of what I used to but I still do ride bareback. You do not want to see how I get on my horse these days - lol lol

Many's the time when I was on an organized ride, I would see people's eyes pop when I parked my horse beside some stupid thing so I could get back on him. I would look them dead in the eye and say "I can stay on, it's getting on that's turned into an issue" - lollol

My words of choice have become "some modification is needed to get this done"

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I have Grade III Spondoliothesis and don't ride an inth of what I used to but I still do ride bareback. You do not want to see how I get on my horse these days - lol lol

Many's the time when I was on an organized ride, I would see people's eyes pop when I parked my horse beside some stupid thing so I could get back on him. I would look them dead in the eye and say "I can stay on, it's getting on that's turned into an issue" - lollol

My words of choice have become "some modification is needed to get this done"
I love this: some modification is needed to get this done. That suits me just fine. Yes! We are all working and living our lives to get to a place where it's not the same as before, and modification is necessary to continue onward.

I laughed as you described mounting using some stupid thing - oh yeah. And I can't even do that. If I don't have what'll help me get to the right height, I'm walking. But that's okay too. It's all good.

I'm feeling great from all this support - because I know you all know how much love there is in riding and how hard it is to be humbled. I thank you all so much - really.

I've decided I'm going to take a few Beginner Western classes and go backwards and cover basics again. I can lope/canter when it's time. Right now I need to get my confidence back up again and that will come when I can do what I'm supposed to do and do it right.

Take it slow. There's no hurry. It's the journey anyway.

Thank you again. :)

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I think you have a lot of supporters, even though we are via internet. We all feel ya. Just have fun!
I haven't posted in this thread because I've been a bit busy but just wanted to second the above ...just because we are older and have to accept some physical limitations doesn't mean we have to grow up and out of our dreams!

We grow too soon old, and too late smart.
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