Originally Posted by Vidaloco
I'm not sure if this is the right thing but would it be better to keep them apart during a time when you can be with him a lot? So he gets used to being with you alone and no other horse. I've never had to seperate horses so I'm not sure if thats good advice or not. It just seems to make more sense, if your going to seperate them, that the antisocial one should have you as a companion instead of another horse. Rather than leaving him alone for long periods of time. I worry he will totally freak out and hurt himself.
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I never let a horse turn its butt to me unless I know they just want it scratched
If any of them turn their backsides I push them around. I have even kicked, smacked and shoved them around.
This is the thing. I don't work the horses together. I usually do it right outside their pen in my back yard. I have taken Dumas for MANY walks just he and I and he seems fine. He will lead darn near anywhere I want. I'm nervous that they will get freaked being alone. They are hardy horses that haven't had anything but a minor scrape. I don't want them trying to climb out of the corrall or something silly like that when I can't see them or hear them.
IF i could reach Dumas when he turns his ass to me I'd whack him a good one! EVERYTIME! He just does it out of arms reach but within striking distance. He is a sharp cookie! He has NEVER kicked at us... NEVER. The thing is that he COULD if he wanted to.
I don't trust him. One minute he is wonderful then you go to do something else and he gets super cautious. He STAYS at arms reach where you can't get up close to be safe. I think he sences that I don't trust him. And I know he does not trust me. I HAVE sat in his pen quietly for hours!!!!!! He just avoids me. He is not curious. He knows what I am.
I don't know if i'm trying to talk myself into or out of Dumas.
I have this little voice in the back of my head saying get rid of him. He's not trustworthy.
It also doesn't help that one of ours friends made a standing offer to buy him or trade horses for him. This friend is an accomplished horseman. No awards or ribbons. He just eat/sleeps/breathes horses. A true backwoods country boy. i'm sure he hasn't even heard of parelli. I keep thinking that putting up with a biatchy mare once in a while is better than putting up with a pain in the butt gelding all the time.
Then I think how good Dumas is sometimes and if we could just turn that corner and get some trust. He would be awesome.
Be strong and courageous, and do the work. Don't be afraid or discouraged by the size of the task, for the Lord God, my God, is with you. He will not fail you or forsake you.
1 Chronicles 28:20