Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Canberra Australia
Others are telling you about what you can do for your horse, or about how to ride her or that you should fix this or that; so I’ll leave that to them. I will say that after you come off it can probably have a couple of effects on you, and getting your confidence back can be easy or hard depending on how the spill affected you. I have come off probably hundreds, if not thousands, of times, but then I start quite a lot of young horses and have worked on cattle stations across the north or Australia, and ridden some real mean old station horses, and mostly I took it as a given that it was going to happen. However, I once lost a lot of confidence doing some things on a horse. When I was about 14 I was mustering cattle on a place in North Queensland and as I went cantering down a hillside chasing a cow, which was taking off from the mob, I was ripped out of the saddle by hitting a tree, it was a small tree and caught me under the jaw. This lifted me out of the saddle but my foot got hung up so I was kept on the horse but behind the saddle and falling to the left (my right foot got caught). Then a big Ironbark tree got me across the chest and took me right off. I came too, winded, with broken ribs, a broken jaw, cracked teeth and a tongue nearly bitten right off; thankfully the stirrup leather came off the hook or I probably would have been dragged too. (Nearly got killed again about 4 years later but that’s another story, and didn’t affect me nearly as bad as the first one).
I recovered from the injuries in about 6 months or so but what I didn’t recover from quickly was the psychological damage it did, specifically, if I went into thick bush after a cow I would slow right down, to the extent I lost a fair few cattle in thick scrub because I couldn’t bring myself to go through it fast any more. Needless to say, cattle station owners and managers don’t appreciate that kind of thing. It took me a long time to get my confidence back, I had to start off slow and gradually build it up so that now I’m about back to where I was. The thing I think you need to do is decide whether you want to do it bad enough or not. If yes, go slow, build up your confidence from the ground up, as it were. Get the horse in hand on the ground, then a walk, then trot, then canter; don’t go onto the next stage till you are in complete control of, and have complete confidence in yourself, in the one you are at. I am figuring if you do it like this, you will regain your confidence; and possibly work out any kinks the horse has too. Good luck with it; just remember, if you want it bad enough don’t give up.