I re-read this entire thread and didn't find a single thing that indicated anyone was thinking of themselves, or said that you should ignore the fact this girl died or even any "Yap-Yap About Some Stupid Thing" or what anyone should feel ashamed of.
You posted a thread about a topic and no one could figure out why, or what the title meant. (The title is still a mystery to me.)
So after two pages, and some Googling (not from you, who posted this in the first place), I find out who this young lady is and how and when she died. All of which is very sad. And I completely get that you felt a connection to this young woman, and are grieving, even though you only knew her through the internet.
So, if you would like some commiseration 1.) be clear in your posts in the first place or 2.) lose the attitude when people don't understand what you're talking about and question or 3.) Both.