practice taking up the pressure slowly, and see if she matches you with equal pressure. You do NOT want that. You want her to feel the bit, to have enough contact with it that YOU can feel her mouth (i.e. You can feel if she is mouthing the bit, if pushes it with her tongue, etc) but you want her to carry the weight of her own head and body, never to use the rein to help carry her head.
You want to be able to shorten further, it you want to, and she'll bring her head even closer to you, and lift even more, and the opposite; if you ease your hands forward, you want her to follow the bit forward, but NOT fall so fast and hard forward that she pulls them out of your hand, or you stop being able to feel her mouth.
What I meant by you not wanting her to mathc your pressure is that you don't want the horse to increase her push against the bit for every ounce of pressure you put on it. It's her responsibility to set how tight the contact is. If you take up contact, and she does't want it, she can come off the bit by lifting her head . If she does that too much, it's her evading the bit, and for that you must ask for more impulsion from behind so that she comes back to meet the bit.
When she meets the bit, but does not lean on it, you give her a tiny release to tell her that there is where she should be.
Last edited by tinyliny; 11-20-2012 at 09:04 PM.