Any hints or bits of advice will be greatly appreciated. I feel like I'm going backward in my riding.
I take lessons with a private trainer. I started out riding a TB and we just did not mesh. I was so nervous around her. She was constantly trying to bite and nip from the ground. This was maybe my 3rd lesson in and I asked to switch to another horse.
They put me with a total sweetheart, also a TB. My confidence soared with this horse. She was a doll and so patient with me. I had never rode in an English saddle before and was a total newb. Go to the barn one day and find out she was sold.
They put me with another horse. I adored him. Smaller paint/qh. He tested me the first day by going to middle of the ring and refused to move. I struggled a little but then, he listened to me. He tested me a little in the beginning, but within the first lesson, I had no problems. I was trotting fantastic with him. Almost up to the canter, yay! Go to the barn the next week and he's sold.
They put me with a warmblood who was a dream. Again, I learned so much with her. She tested me a little but then after a little power struggle, we were good. I was again building confidence, doing great. Find out she's sold.
All of this happened over the past 6 months.
So now I'm back with the original meanie TB. I really just don't care for this horse. Right now she is their only beginner horse. The rest are ponies or intermediate horses. So every week it's this mare now. I feel like I'm slipping backward with her. The thing is, she does listen to more advanced riders. She just does NOT listen to me at all. As mentioned, I've dealt with the initial power struggle with a horse testing you. I just can't get past the power struggle with her.
So since I'm stuck with her for now, I really need advice.
We walk fine. Once we get up to the trot, she throws her head down and goes to the center of the ring. My trainer told me when she does this, she needs more leg. I squeeze with everything I have and struggle to get her back out to the track. We try to trot again. She does the same. My trainer says to kick her with the inside leg and use the outside rein to get her back on the track. It works for a second and she moves to the track, but then refuses to trot. If I do manage to keep her on the track, she gives me a few trots and stops.
With the constant stop and go, I'm flying all over the place. Several times she stops dead in her tracks and throws her head down and I almost go flying over her head.
Then she is constantly stopping to bite at flies. She'll just stop and reach backward like she's going to bite my foot but it seems she is just going after a fly. Still, more stopping.
It's like I have to work for every single step she takes. I feel like I cannot learn anything fighting her constantly. I've had 3 other lesson horses that did not do this to me.
Is it possible that once a horse sees you as a beginner, they will always see you as a beginner and never respect you? I know this horse is capable of listening. She just doesn't listen to me. My confidence is sinking.
I really do like my trainer, but my last 3 lessons have sucked. Sometimes getting feedback from others is much more helpful. I'm hoping someone here can help. It's either deal with this mare or switch barns and until recently, I really liked this barn.