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post #21 of 30 Old 12-24-2008, 01:51 AM Thread Starter
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Didnt ride today either, the horses were still in the arena and now they have got wire joining a paddock. I might chase the horses into the paddock and leave them in there while I use the arena. My aunty is also up for christmas and she owns horses so I think that's going to help me too. I will give you guys a update when I do ride her it will proparly be after christmas.


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post #22 of 30 Old 12-24-2008, 04:35 PM
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Yeah I have been looking for someone to do lessons. That will be my goal next year :P

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Not tht ull need it... ull get on just fine... you'll see :)

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post #23 of 30 Old 04-20-2009, 06:26 PM
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I get that too. I can ride great with a horse that I'm confident in (one's I KNOW will not buck/bolt etc.) but when I'm on a spooky horse, I lose all confidence and end up going into a defensive two-point position in canter!
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post #24 of 30 Old 04-23-2009, 05:14 PM
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I know where you're coming from. I've been there and it's no fun. Especially since it's so hard to get that confidence back. I would get her checked out by a vet to rule out any pain issues. If that's not the problem, I would get a good trainer/instructor. Have them work your horse and she should gradually become more reliable. Otherwise, if you're really scared to ride her and you don't feel safe or comfortable on her, it might not be worth keeping her. The whole point of having horses is to enjoy yourself and have the horse enjoy being with you in return. You want a really dead broke, quiet, and patient horse to build your confidence.

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post #25 of 30 Old 04-23-2009, 07:08 PM Thread Starter
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This is a very old thread! Hmmm I guess while I'm here I will give an update.

So I have owned her for 5 months now, we just stuck to ground work for most of it. I finally got back on YAY!! We had our 6th ride together yesterday, I fell off on our 5th ride but I hopped back on and kept going with it. We havent gone any faster then a walk and we have had one ride out of the round yard.

She is still fighting the bit alot. She is in one of these http://www.tds-saddlers.com/ProductImages/18151.JPG. Do you think I should change it to a O ring snaffle or a D ring or just leave her with the Tom Thumb?

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post #26 of 30 Old 04-23-2009, 07:29 PM
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Yeah basically what everyone else said but I have something to add. I think you should also just like lead her around. Take her around to graze, groom her really well, give her a bath, lounge her. Everything that doesn't have to do with getting on so you can get used to her.
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post #27 of 30 Old 04-23-2009, 07:49 PM Thread Starter
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that's what I have been doing for the last 4 months. I take her for walks, groom...Lounging her is a little hard because she kicks out and bucks, the round yard is very small and she could get kick me, so that's a no no...

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post #28 of 30 Old 04-23-2009, 08:36 PM
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I am back into horses for 4 years now. I have been moving too quickly. Last weekend I finally concentrated on walking and turning. When I found my lazy boy being responsive, we kicked it up a notch. I didn't move past a trot. I too have a fear of being thrown. I know in my head niether of mine would do it intentionally. It is me. I know I ride better than I think I do, but I don't feel it. So last weekend, I spent totally focused on my boy and myself and a close connection. Very slow and gentle. After an hour- mind you, I have had him two years- I felt confident enough to turn at a trot and found my balance clear and matching him. I felt so good-best in 4 years. He was relaxed and comfortable-yet lazy-as he is that. But the next day, he was eager to see me. I felt it was a great gain. I am gaining comfort in leading him- as he is pushy- we do a lot of turns- until he relaxes. Important thing to remember, do what you are confident doing. If you walk until you master that- you are showing a good leader. Thank you for the post. This is the first time, I have shared my confidence problem. You are an inspiration.
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post #29 of 30 Old 04-23-2009, 09:06 PM Thread Starter
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I am back into horses for 4 years now. I have been moving too quickly. Last weekend I finally concentrated on walking and turning. When I found my lazy boy being responsive, we kicked it up a notch. I didn't move past a trot. I too have a fear of being thrown. I know in my head niether of mine would do it intentionally. It is me. I know I ride better than I think I do, but I don't feel it. So last weekend, I spent totally focused on my boy and myself and a close connection. Very slow and gentle. After an hour- mind you, I have had him two years- I felt confident enough to turn at a trot and found my balance clear and matching him. I felt so good-best in 4 years. He was relaxed and comfortable-yet lazy-as he is that. But the next day, he was eager to see me. I felt it was a great gain. I am gaining comfort in leading him- as he is pushy- we do a lot of turns- until he relaxes. Important thing to remember, do what you are confident doing. If you walk until you master that- you are showing a good leader. Thank you for the post. This is the first time, I have shared my confidence problem. You are an inspiration.
Slow and Steady wins the race! Glad I was an inspiration, keep up the good work.

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post #30 of 30 Old 11-20-2009, 06:41 PM
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You have to just think " Im going to get on and ride and nothing bad is going to happen, and I AM A GOOD RIDER AND I CAN RIDE ANYTHING!" lol it workd I have used it. :)

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