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post #41 of 54 Old 02-15-2013, 07:27 AM
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I'm a gelding person, but have come across the occasional mare I enjoy-never hopped on them though! Only admired from the ground
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I have owned mostly mares after riding them and my stallion something is missing when riding geldings. Shalom
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Out of our herd I definitely prefer the mares. Both mares are ten times more lively and energetic than any of our geldings. Our geldings are just "blah" like they lack personality. Our mares on the other hand have plenty of personality for everybody. By personality I dont mean attitude. Both of our mares are into everything and very curious. Both want to be with someone 24/7 they are good mounts and have a ton of get up and go. They will play with balls, buckets, chains on the gates (one undoes most latches she has come in contact with), stuff they like. They are entertaining. All our geldings are just there. They dont care whether you go get them out or not. They dont care what you do with them they are just "there" pretty much. My hubby only rides geldings. Every now and then he will go saddle up the TWH mare and ride but not often. My SSH he hates to ride

Actually, I have only every rode two geldings in the 15 years I have been riding. One I only rode once and then my app.

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I think it really depends on the horse, but in my experience, geldings lack a certain attitude that mares have (which can be a blessing and a curse). A lot of mares DO try harder for their rider and have personality, which often makes them easier to bond with. However, mares can be moody and are often harder to put into a mixed herd. Geldings are usually pretty chill and dependable but sometimes show apathy toward their jobs, especially if they're bored.
For a trail horse, it could go either way. I would try out both mares and geldings before deciding on a horse.
And not every horse will fit the gender stereotype - I've ridden some of the sweetest and gentlest mares and some geldings who love their jobs and are very sensitive to their rider.
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post #45 of 54 Old 02-15-2013, 11:29 AM
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Since when do geldings lack personality? Or are my boys a rarity? My boys have plenty of personality and attitude. Some more than others. My mare is probably the most laid back of the bunch. She is just so meek compared to the rough and tumble boys!
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post #46 of 54 Old 02-15-2013, 02:41 PM
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a GOOD horse is hard enough to find. Why limit your sex? Look at all until one seems to fit what you want.
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post #47 of 54 Old 02-15-2013, 04:23 PM
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It is different for every person.

My old even trainer preferred mares - she said they always gave 110%.

I prefer mares - once they realize I am the alpha mare they listen. Some "discussions" occur but I persevere and they eventually give in.

My girlfriend prefers geldings - but owns mostly mares at the moment.

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post #48 of 54 Old 02-15-2013, 07:56 PM
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I prefer mares.
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post #49 of 54 Old 02-16-2013, 09:32 AM
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I don't really agree with the whole genders attitudes. Yes, most mares are mare-ish and most geldings are old pluggers (I've never worked with stallions), but there are always exceptions to those rules.
If you asked me if you should buy a mare or gelding, I would say it doesn't matter as long as you get on and feel a connection.
The mare I leased for two years was more mare than I've ever seen before,maher personalities would change from spurs and whip to whoa darn it! But I loved her because I felt a bond.
The last gelding I leased (quit with him because he was too far away) was very energetic, but he was fun and I felt a bond with him.
The gelding I tried yesterday was very calm and not demanding, he had springy gaits, and because he was a retired third level dressage horse, he was very responsive. But he absorbed all of the mistakes I made. I wasn't actually planning on liking him when I first saw him (he was just an old cinder block gelding) but the minute I felt his extended trot I was sold. And then I felt a little bond form!
Anyways, I think the most trail safe horses are the ones you form a little bond with because (for me) you know they have just enough personality to be stupid, but enough smarts to take care of you.
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post #50 of 54 Old 02-16-2013, 10:51 AM
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Well, I am sure there are a lot of variables here beyond just the sex of the horse. However, I will give you my experience....which to some, probably means

I have owned four horses, 1 gelding and 3 mares. Out of the four of them, the gelding was smart, playful, would test you frequently, bonded well, but he kept you guessing on whther or not that bond was still as strong as the day before. I described him as having ADHD and would often want to do what he wanted, but would do what you wanted if he felt it suit you always had to be creative and make him think it was his idea. I played the same type of ego head games with him that I did with my

My first mare was crazy, but willing if she trusted you, nurturing, serious and to the point. Once you established you were alpha mare, it was never questioned again. The bond was strong, never forgotten.

My last two mares are calm, trusting and the the same traits as my first mare with being nurturing, serious and the bond being trusted and not every again questioned as far as the herd order between us. One is playful, the other is extremely prudish. One can be put into season very easily, the other could care less if she ever saw a stallion again.

I also believe that the human personality matters with some horses too. My first crazy mare would not tolerate a human who wasn't patient and gentle. If you made her feel backed into a corner, she would retaliate. But with a person she trusted, she was putty in your hands.

My gelding needed a firm hand, not someone all 'pooky doo' or he would run circles around you laughing. He was a game player.

My two mares now can pretty much adapt to any personality, one more so than the other. They will tolerate anything from anyone (except abuse, obviously). My one mare is a coming four year old, who will occassionally test the waters with her herd order, but nothing major that isn't resolved in an instant. My other mare is older, the grandma type who has been through a lot and prefers absolutely no drama. The young mare can test her, and she doesn't mind letting her feel she won, until after a few times of it, then she floors her.
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