Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Chula Vista, CA
Well, I am sure there are a lot of variables here beyond just the sex of the horse. However, I will give you my experience....which to some, probably means nothing...lol.
I have owned four horses, 1 gelding and 3 mares. Out of the four of them, the gelding was smart, playful, would test you frequently, bonded well, but he kept you guessing on whther or not that bond was still as strong as the day before. I described him as having ADHD and would often want to do what he wanted, but would do what you wanted if he felt it suit him....so you always had to be creative and make him think it was his idea. I played the same type of ego head games with him that I did with my husband...lol.
My first mare was crazy, but willing if she trusted you, nurturing, serious and to the point. Once you established you were alpha mare, it was never questioned again. The bond was strong, never forgotten.
My last two mares are calm, trusting and the the same traits as my first mare with being nurturing, serious and the bond being trusted and not every again questioned as far as the herd order between us. One is playful, the other is extremely prudish. One can be put into season very easily, the other could care less if she ever saw a stallion again.
I also believe that the human personality matters with some horses too. My first crazy mare would not tolerate a human who wasn't patient and gentle. If you made her feel backed into a corner, she would retaliate. But with a person she trusted, she was putty in your hands.
My gelding needed a firm hand, not someone all 'pooky doo' or he would run circles around you laughing. He was a game player.
My two mares now can pretty much adapt to any personality, one more so than the other. They will tolerate anything from anyone (except abuse, obviously). My one mare is a coming four year old, who will occassionally test the waters with her herd order, but nothing major that isn't resolved in an instant. My other mare is older, the grandma type who has been through a lot and prefers absolutely no drama. The young mare can test her, and she doesn't mind letting her feel she won, until after a few times of it, then she floors her.