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post #11 of 28 Old 06-02-2013, 08:05 PM Thread Starter
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I have BPD, PTSD, Depression, Anxiety, Fibromyalgia and Crohns. I am 28 years old. You want to talk about being a 90 year old in a young persons body?

Sorry to sound blunt and crude but to me it sounds like you are either off your meds, or need a change in your meds. As well as more consistent therapy sessions.

Horses are therapy. Its what they do best. The horse world is full of people with mental issues, physical issues and any sort of disability you can imagine. Horses give many of us a reason to keep going. My jumper coach(who is one of the only level 4 jumper coaches in the world) has not been able to sit in a saddle in years because of injuries.

One of my best friends can not ride because her anxiety gets the better of her and she panics when the horse stumbles. Yet she is a groom for a large show barn and loves it. I know others who will just find things to do with mini's or take up equine photography... there are so many ways you can be involved without riding if you don't think being in the saddle is your thing.

Though I suspect you have something else going on and you may need to talk to someone to sort it out.

Chin up, there is so much support out there for you. Something will work out *hugs*
I'm not even on medication :/ and I probably should be. yikes-I'm not that anxious, yet, and I can't even imagine having a breakdown in front of others because that's more fuel to the fire. Although I'm not good at hiding emotions. yeah-I'd probably enjoy those side equine activities instead. You're not being "blunt or crude" your straight to the point, which is good-I'm my own worst critic anyway.
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post #12 of 28 Old 06-02-2013, 08:13 PM
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If you want to ride, then you should do it whether you are very good at it or not. If you don't want to, then that is your choice too. My daughter loves animals. She doesn't have nearly the interest in riding that she once did; however, she is really big into cat rescue.
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post #13 of 28 Old 06-02-2013, 08:17 PM
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I'm not even on medication :/ and I probably should be. yikes-I'm not that anxious, yet, and I can't even imagine having a breakdown in front of others because that's more fuel to the fire. Although I'm not good at hiding emotions. yeah-I'd probably enjoy those side equine activities instead. You're not being "blunt or crude" your straight to the point, which is good-I'm my own worst critic anyway.
Is there any chance of talking to someone and looking at getting on meds? I am on a very low dose of prozac and it has made a HUGE difference in my anxiety and other depression issues. I have ativan for the big melt downs but I haven't needed it in almost a year now. But its there should I need it.

I found just having a good counselor to talk to made a world of difference. I have students who struggle with anxiety. One of my kids is 10 years old. She has started yoga and reflexology for her anxiety. 2 years ago she would have full blown melt downs and not be able to function. Riding combined with yoga and meditation has made her a new kid. Riding didn't help her until she started with me. She had about 4 different coaches prior to me and once her and I were paired together she really got ahold of her, her confidence boosted and she came out of her shell and is a new kid.

Sometimes it just takes a change in instructors. I know I have had instructors where I felt like I was taking 20 steps back before getting one forward.

I would look into yoga and meditation if meds and therapy are not an option. You won't believe how much they will do for your mental and physical health.

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If you want to ride, then you should do it whether you are very good at it or not. If you don't want to, then that is your choice too. My daughter loves animals. She doesn't have nearly the interest in riding that she once did; however, she is really big into cat rescue.
she's a good girl. I love it when kids get the idea that they can change the world and they actually find a way to do it. in her case, one cat at a time. cats are adorable and dear. except when they're not. they can be quite formidable.

I had a siamese red point named george. he weighed about three pounds soaking wet. he could make the hair on your neck stand up when he'd go up into the loft. you'd almost hear a sound - this low grade savage growl. I think george was inbred.
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post #15 of 28 Old 06-02-2013, 08:25 PM Thread Starter
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Is there any chance of talking to someone and looking at getting on meds? I am on a very low dose of prozac and it has made a HUGE difference in my anxiety and other depression issues. I have ativan for the big melt downs but I haven't needed it in almost a year now. But its there should I need it.

I found just having a good counselor to talk to made a world of difference. I have students who struggle with anxiety. One of my kids is 10 years old. She has started yoga and reflexology for her anxiety. 2 years ago she would have full blown melt downs and not be able to function. Riding combined with yoga and meditation has made her a new kid. Riding didn't help her until she started with me. She had about 4 different coaches prior to me and once her and I were paired together she really got ahold of her, her confidence boosted and she came out of her shell and is a new kid.

Sometimes it just takes a change in instructors. I know I have had instructors where I felt like I was taking 20 steps back before getting one forward.

I would look into yoga and meditation if meds and therapy are not an option. You won't believe how much they will do for your mental and physical health.
Yes-I just spoke with someone yesterday. hm..prozac seems to be the rave in the anxiety world as of now. Anyway I tried meditation, but when your mind is sometimes racing with thoughts so blatantly random, it becomes difficult to shut them out, or up, mind you. I may just find something at Uni-aka probably the most stressful years of my life; I'm hoping not. Lucky for me, at my university there are many barns around. Really-equine photography sounds stunning-I already enjoy photography; got that interest from my sis. I also write, which is a big stress reliever in itself; especially when I'm writing a requested story.
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The university time has the potential to be one of the best times in your life. It can be a bit nerve wracking to totally change up your life, but you will have a great time. Just remember to actually go to class and study and such..........

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post #17 of 28 Old 06-02-2013, 08:38 PM
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Yes-I just spoke with someone yesterday. hm..prozac seems to be the rave in the anxiety world as of now. Anyway I tried meditation, but when your mind is sometimes racing with thoughts so blatantly random, it becomes difficult to shut them out, or up, mind you. I may just find something at Uni-aka probably the most stressful years of my life; I'm hoping not. Lucky for me, at my university there are many barns around. Really-equine photography sounds stunning-I already enjoy photography; got that interest from my sis. I also write, which is a big stress reliever in itself; especially when I'm writing a requested story.
I've been on it for almost 4 years now and its been a huge help for me. I get really bad social anxiety. To the point I am seriously intimidated by 14 year olds feeling judged, even though I know i'm not. Its a really weird internal struggle.

Uni is a very stressful time in life, however its the best years of your life. There are tons of support groups when you are in Uni. I would take advantage of them. You will have the best support system one could ask for while you are in school.

I am going to pm you a link. I think you might find it helpful

If you love photography I think you should really look into it more. You will love it. And maybe even combine your love of photography with your love of writing. I bet you could come up with lots of great stories. Have you thought about kids books?

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I've been on it for almost 4 years now and its been a huge help for me. I get really bad social anxiety. To the point I am seriously intimidated by 14 year olds feeling judged, even though I know i'm not. Its a really weird internal struggle.

Uni is a very stressful time in life, however its the best years of your life. There are tons of support groups when you are in Uni. I would take advantage of them. You will have the best support system one could ask for while you are in school.

I am going to pm you a link. I think you might find it helpful

If you love photography I think you should really look into it more. You will love it. And maybe even combine your love of photography with your love of writing. I bet you could come up with lots of great stories. Have you thought about kids books?
Thanks. I suppose I'll see my view four years from now; and childrens books-oh no no no, my writing is not for kids-in fact, I don't like children; but that's besides the point.
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post #19 of 28 Old 06-02-2013, 08:48 PM
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Thanks. I suppose I'll see my view four years from now; and childrens books-oh no no no, my writing is not for kids-in fact, I don't like children; but that's besides the point.
Nothing wrong with not liking kids or your style not being for them lol. Twas just a thought.

Though I get a feeling you are a very "artsy" kind of person, even if you don't realize it. If you put your mind to it I bet you could find a few different ways to combine your love of writing, photography and horses together

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OP, one thing is for certain. If you keep telling yourself you can't, can't, can't, you will never be able to. The mind is a powerful tool. You can use it for you or against you, and right now, you are falling square in the latter category. Maybe your therapist can give you some insight on the power of positive thinking. It could go a long way toward helping you reach your goals. I come from a family full of medical issues and depression. Sure, I'm well aware that it's easier to give up, to not take responsibility, to just say "I'll never be able to do that, so why try?" But is that really how you want to live the rest of your life? My sister has often asked me how I am able to do all that I do, and the answer is simple. I don't give myself another option. I just jump in feet first and DO.
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