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        06-02-2013, 08:34 PM
      #21
    Foal
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    Originally Posted by apachiedragon    
    OP, one thing is for certain. If you keep telling yourself you can't, can't, can't, you will never be able to. The mind is a powerful tool. You can use it for you or against you, and right now, you are falling square in the latter category. Maybe your therapist can give you some insight on the power of positive thinking. It could go a long way toward helping you reach your goals. I come from a family full of medical issues and depression. Sure, I'm well aware that it's easier to give up, to not take responsibility, to just say "I'll never be able to do that, so why try?" But is that really how you want to live the rest of your life? My sister has often asked me how I am able to do all that I do, and the answer is simple. I don't give myself another option. I just jump in feet first and DO.
    You are right a thousand times over. At the same time, it is difficult for me to do when your mind has been wired to seeking out all the worry for years. I can't just jump back into the swing of things; at least not without some aid. I don't mean to be dependent but I've tried-and if I'm not trying hard enough than I simply don't know how..

    So I'll try agian-I've got the strength in me somewhere. I just need to work on bringing it out, even if it takes a long time.
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        06-08-2013, 10:59 AM
      #22
    Weanling
    One great thing about riding/horses is that you are never too old to start! Besides riding, try to spend as much time as you can with horses on the ground. I have found that whenever I'm upset or stressed I go to the barn and completely forget all of that because I'm either having fun playing around with my horses or focused on riding.
         
        06-08-2013, 12:52 PM
      #23
    Weanling
    I also have anxiety and depression, so I know a little of where you're coming from :) I have three horses - a riding horse and two miniatures. When I'm really anxious, I don't go for a ride, (I think I'm a bit like NBEventer's friend - I start imagining gopher holes breaking my horse's legs, every stumble becomes a fall, every twitch of her ears means she's going to buck) but I go play with my minis. They are fabulous therapy, and just brushing them, sitting in the pasture being nuzzled by them, quiets my racing mind.

    My riding horse helps with my depression, my minis help with my anxiety, so whatever's going on, I'm covered. ;) I know that just because they help me doesn't mean it will be the same for you, but this is obviously something you're interested in (otherwise you wouldn't have taken those lessons in the first place) and I'd encourage you not to give up.

    Maybe see if you can find a farm that either has some minis, or old retired horses, that you can just hang out with for a while - they'll get some attention, and it might help you feel more comfortable with horses in general if there's zero pressure to "get better" or "DO" something other than just be with them.
         
        06-08-2013, 02:42 PM
      #24
    Yearling
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    Originally Posted by Celeste    
    If you want to ride, then you should do it whether you are very good at it or not. If you don't want to, then that is your choice too. My daughter loves animals. She doesn't have nearly the interest in riding that she once did; however, she is really big into cat rescue.
    exactly! I ride because it makes me happy NOT because I'm good at it, I'm no Eric Lamaze or George Morris but I love horses I love this sport.
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        06-08-2013, 02:53 PM
      #25
    Banned
    It sounds like you are putting too much pressure on yourself, and comparing yourself to others.

    Stop doing that. If you have a lesson, don't watch what the other riders are doing. Or have private lessons instead. And then just enjoy what you are doing, at the level you are at.

    I've been riding for longer than you have been alive, and there's always better riders. Heck even the Olympic riders have George Morris coaching them. So no matter what level you are at, there's always people who are better - and that's good, that's how we learn and improve.
         
        06-09-2013, 12:48 AM
      #26
    Yearling
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    Originally Posted by AlexS    
    It sounds like you are putting too much pressure on yourself, and comparing yourself to others.

    Stop doing that. If you have a lesson, don't watch what the other riders are doing. Or have private lessons instead. And then just enjoy what you are doing, at the level you are at.

    I've been riding for longer than you have been alive, and there's always better riders. Heck even the Olympic riders have George Morris coaching them. So no matter what level you are at, there's always people who are better - and that's good, that's how we learn and improve.
    well if her barn is like mine, there may be another lesson going on at the same time, although she is the only one in hers, she could always ask to ride in a separate arena if her barn has one though I used to help in a lesson with a girl like that.
         
        06-11-2013, 09:54 AM
      #27
    Foal
    Unless I somehow find the time, the opportunity (and willpower) to ride again (I'm guessing a few months to a few years..) I'm going to 'walk outta here' here until then.

    Everything was just so short lived-in the moment; to make it clear, there isn't a day I wouldn't want to be around horses. I may not be around them for a while unfortunately. I wish I could have more time.



    I'm soo over this thread-it's just painful to read. Lock it, delete it..something! Although I really do appreciate many of the replies. This thread doesn't need to go on. It's just beating a dead horse.
         
        06-11-2013, 12:22 PM
      #28
    Trained
    You can unsubscribe to the thread pretty easily.

    There are so many people here that just want everybody to enjoy horses. It is not for everybody.
         

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