Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Southern California
• Horses: 0
It wasn't my mom who thought this way, but when I bought my second horse (first was actually a pony!) about 7 yrs ago I was sort of in-between trainers. My trainer at the time was moving barns, so I starting working with another trainer who trained where I boarded. Long story short, my horse was green (especially over fences, and was not honest over fences-- never was 100%), and a few lessons in... the new trainer stopped me and told me I should sell the horse and find a new/better one.-- Mind you, this was AFTER he refused to ride the horse again, after he rode him about 2 times and the horse reared with him.-- It was also interesting because he refused to ride him again, but still offered to give me lessons. Umm....?
My response to his idea of selling the horse was to tear up while riding out of the arena, ignoring his recommendation, and stopped riding with him all together. I started working with a new trainer, and the horse slowly improved. Due to barn issues, we went trainerless for a few years, but finally hooked up with a great trainer who helped start to show the horse's true potential and we BOTH started to really learn/improve.
Due to injury, I recently retired that horse, and am now starting fresh with a 3 yr old OTTB, but moral of the story is I knew we could work through the issues, and eventually we did. I could have very well listened to the trainer who was afraid of my horse and said to sell him, but thankfully I didn't, and we have had some great moments and a lot of fun together instead.
Keep doing what you are doing with your girl and if you see improvement with your trainer, that is proof you can do it and that you guys are on the right path. NOT saying anything negative about your mom in particular, but there will always be people who think negative thoughts, think you are in over your head, and express doubt... in both cases of if you actually are in over your head and if you are actually not in over your head.
I really like the blog you have of your progress with Sunny. Just ignore your mom's comments and know you know what you are doing. You can even tell her "we overcome these issues in our lessons with our trainer, so I know we can overcome them now, it's not that big of a deal". Instead of boiling over the negative comments your mom is giving you, turn them around on her with your actions, in continuing to work hard to be able to show her the improvement you are, and will be, making.
Last edited by LostDragonflyWings; 10-06-2012 at 04:23 AM.