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    04-22-2012, 10:58 PM
  #1
Weanling
my freak out on a horse

On Saturday my trainer/instructor took me out to look at a horse for sale. I have looked at a lot of different horses and this one was just like the rest. No ground manners and the owner was fighting to control him under saddle.
I consider myself still a beginner rider, and was not comfortable getting on the horse. Well my trainer pushed me to get on anyways, and the horse ran away with me. I was cueing the horse to go down the driveway and he whips completely around and starts running behind someone's house. I had to plow rein with all my might to get back to a safe place. While on him I over heard the owner say that he has ONLY bucked a handful of times. I instantly had a flashback to when I got bucked off by my qh and got terrified. I pushed the horse to stop, his owner came over and grabbed his bridle.
I was about to swing my leg over to dismount when my trainer walks up and grabs my leg. She would not let me off this horse. He was throwing his head and I could feel his back tensing. The trainer started to yell at me and said that I needed to be a stronger rider and that the horse was feeding off my fear. I know she is right, but this was not the place.
We knew nothing about this horse besides what its owner said. I fought with my trainer for over 5 minutes to get her to let go of my leg. It was so overwhelming I started to ball my eyes out while still in saddle. I have terrible anxiety and have to take medication daily.
I guess I am not sure what to do at this point. I know I need to build confidence, but I'm not sure how. Any ideas?
P.s. I know I am a dork for crying.
     
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    04-22-2012, 11:01 PM
  #2
Weanling
Honestly? Id have a nice long talk with that trainer. She should not have made you stay On or even get on in the first place
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    04-22-2012, 11:02 PM
  #3
Trained
I personally think your trainer was very wrong to not allow you to get off. If you were more experienced and confident I'm sure you wouldn't have gotten off, but to make you stay on a horse that you do not know, even when your crying and hysterical, was insane. She doesn't know that horse what-so-ever, and doesn't know what he's capable of.

I don't know about you, but I'd highly consider finding a new trainer that wouldn't put me through the added stress of being bullied into doing something that you are not capable of handing, nor are you wanting to be involved in. There is a line, and your trainer crossed it Saturday.
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    04-22-2012, 11:04 PM
  #4
Weanling
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Originally Posted by CLaPorte432    
I personally think your trainer was very wrong to not allow you to get off. If you were more experienced and confident I'm sure you wouldn't have gotten off, but to make you stay on a horse that you do not know, even when your crying and hysterical, was insane. She doesn't know that horse what-so-ever, and doesn't know what he's capable of.

I don't know about you, but I'd highly consider finding a new trainer that wouldn't put me through the added stress of being bullied into doing something that you are not capable of handing, nor are you wanting to be involved in. There is a line, and your trainer crossed it Saturday.
I agree with finding a new trainer too
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    04-22-2012, 11:05 PM
  #5
Yearling
I agree with the others. Your trainer was out of line.
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    04-22-2012, 11:05 PM
  #6
Green Broke
I'm very sorry this happened to you. It shouldn't have. You should not have been put in this position, especially by your trainer. From what you have written, I think you need a different trainer.

Good luck to you, I wish you the best.
     
    04-22-2012, 11:06 PM
  #7
Yearling
There are the trainers who are good, and push their students. Then there are the trainers who know everything and will drill it to you one way or another. Your trainer is the later. Time to get a new one.
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    04-22-2012, 11:10 PM
  #8
Cat
Green Broke
Add me to the find a new trainer section and if you don't want to do that - at least talk with her. A strange horse you don't know is not the time nor place to get over your fears.
     
    04-22-2012, 11:13 PM
  #9
Trained
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Originally Posted by Cat    
Add me to the find a new trainer section and if you don't want to do that - at least talk with her. A strange horse you don't know is not the time nor place to get over your fears.
Cat, I completely agree with this. A strange horse in a strange place in NOT the time to deal with getting over fears. Especially if the trainer knows NOTHING about how the horse rides.

OP, when she saw how the horse was acting on the ground, your trainer should have been the one to get on him. Or she should have made the responsible decision to say "thank you for your time" to the owner and walk away.

YOU DID ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG!
     
    04-22-2012, 11:14 PM
  #10
Banned
Your trainer was out of line and you need to fire her immediately.

If you are a minor, where were your parents (at least one of them) in all of this? Not only would I not let my daughter's trainer take her to see a horse without me, if I saw her doing the same to my daughter well let's just say things would get ugly quickly.
     

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