Ok, I have been researching this for days and finally have to bring it here! I just got a new horse on the 26th of January. We had her feet done and shod on the 30th so really didn't ride her until after that. Well, at first we could not get her to go! She is a 21 year old Paint mare and I thought I made a mistake with an older horse. Well, now I cannot get her to keep a slow pace or walk when other horses are around. I mean they can be riding with me or just boarders out for a ride with their horses and she needs to go go go. I am fine with training and holding her back but the way she dances around freaks me out! I had a bad fall off another horse in December and maybe im gun shy but I do have to add that last Saturday my boyfriend was riding Snowflake and wanted her to leave the yard after coming back just for training and well, long story short they both went down!!!! She fussed, danced and reared and backed into a sit and over they went!! I guess I am afraid she is going to do that to me if I challenge her too much to do what I want. I am as stubborn as the horse but I am smarter and do not want to get a horse over on me. Please helpppppppppp!! I cannot always control when others ride, I can control having them ride with me and pull ahead but she needs to get over this. Will she just work out of it?? I am thinking I need my round pen set back up but bf's dad has the panels with the cows until in the spring. Well sorry for the long jumping around post. Any help will be appreciated. Just to add, we had a good day yesterday when riding with one other horse keeping the same pace. But with the other two came by she started to toss but not as bad, maybe because I was with another horse, not sure. Today, she was horrible, from the time I tried to get on her to the time I put her away!!! UGH!!