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post #31 of 34 Old 02-14-2010, 12:26 AM
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Originally Posted by Speed Racer View Post
Based on everything I'd say cut your losses, find another barn, forget about leasing for now, and just ride lesson horses until you're in a more financially secure position.
I agree. Even if you were able to negotiate something with her(which sounds unlikely from your initial post), do you think she would allow it to be an enjoyable experience for you? probably it. I would honestly keep looking somewhere else even if it means a longer drive for you, it would be well worth it in the end.

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post #32 of 34 Old 02-14-2010, 12:34 AM
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Originally Posted by Dizzy View Post
How do i deal with this character?? I have no idea where to start. I don't want to be walked all over and being treated like an idiot but i can't be constantly fighting with her either if i am to get what i want...

Can anyone help?
You don't deal with that character. You start by walking away and finding someone else no matter how tough that is. It's not going to be anything but stressful to put yourself in that situation on a daily basis. It's not worth it. Riding won't be fun, going there won't be fun.

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post #33 of 34 Old 02-16-2010, 12:42 AM
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Originally Posted by Dizzy View Post
I have recently moved barns to one that's closer to me. I used to ride at this barn about 7 or 8 years ago and i had to leave, partly because the owner was a horrible, HORRIBLE person (and partly because at the end of it all i was being taught by 15 year olds, who were still students themselves, which didn't impress me). Well, i thought that now i'm a proper adult maybe things will be different, boy was i wrong. She didn't remember me at all, but right from the get go, the FIRST meeting, she was horrible. She's most definitely up on her high horse (pun intended ).
Anyone would have thought that she was trying to provoke me into an all out fight she was so rude...all this, and in our first meeting. I didn't do or say anything to provoke this, yet she was so rude. It was as though she downright hated me, making snide, horrible comments and being outright condescending. It was almost unbelievable. She's actually known for being like this, but hell, i ride horses for fun. I'm not going to come here and PAY for fun, only to be shouted at and being made to feel like an idiot, which is how she made me feel.

I haven't had a lesson with her yet, but as another peson told me "she doesn't suffer fools". And here i am, only just starting to ride again after a VERY long break. I'm basically a beginner again. I AM going to make mistakes and my legs will NOT be strong enough yet.... i don't think i'll be able to handle her attitude... but the thing is, my options are limited.

This barn is the closest one to me, and that's not all. I plan to lease a horse in the summer, and her prices are the best. She's looking for around 100-150 per month (probably 120 for what i'd be looking for) and the other barn that's 40 minutes away from me where i had 3 lessons would be asking 220.
But it's not that easy. She has a limit on leasing horses, meaning that if i lease, it has to be at 3 month long intervals. Thing is, i would never be able to afford that. I could only ever do one month at a time to allow me to budget for the next month. In other words, if i were to lease for one month, come the end of that month i MAY be able to lease for a futher month, and come the end of THAT month i MAY be able to do the third month. There's no way i'd be able to commit to 3 months right off the bat. Because of this i need to feel that i can negotiate with her, therefore i can't exactly go around fighting with her, bumping heads and burning bridges (one of her employees hinted that if she knew me and we got along i could do it month by month). But she's just SO horrible and abrasive that it kind of defeats my aim of going there to have FUN.

How do i deal with this character?? I have no idea where to start. I don't want to be walked all over and being treated like an idiot but i can't be constantly fighting with her either if i am to get what i want...

Can anyone help?
Maybe you should first off just act like you're not going to be someone like a pushover just act like you're someone who shouldn't be trifled with. Maybe. :l Or just tell her to **** off and that you're not paying to be a doormat you're just paying to ride the horses. That's IT. THAT'S ALL YOU'RE PAYING FOR.
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post #34 of 34 Old 02-21-2010, 06:49 PM
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If you're having so many issues w/the BO, you should walk away. Which would you rather: paying less and riding in an unpleasant atmosphere, or paying more and riding in a friendly, fun, and pleasant atmosphere? Horseback riding is supposed to be fun, not stressful in any way.

When I got my horse, I boarded him at a local stable. To make a long story short, the BO did everything in her power to make my horse a nervous wreck, and did the next best thing to abusing him.

Guess what I did? I got him out ASAP, and now he's boarded at a stable where he's happy and relaxed, with a very responsible BO. The catch? I'm paying almost twice the boarding price.

Moral of the story is, if you don't like it at your barn for any reason, get out. And if you don't get out, don't come whining to us that you're having trouble.
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