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post #1 of 8 Old 02-11-2013, 05:12 PM Thread Starter
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Need Advice!

Not sure if this is the place to post this, mods can move it if necessary.

So, I've been riding at the same barn (Barn A) for about 9 years now and have made some fantastic friends (Left briefly over the summer to a jumping barn, but im back now) and things have never been great between the barn owner and I. We have very different opinions, and dont see eye to eye.

The barn is a Morgan Breeding barn and they show English, Western, and Saddleseat. I have always been an english rider, and was persuing jumping. The BO didnt like this, she doesnt condone jumping (even though she has a jumping coach) and didnt like the fact that my horse wasnt a Morgan.

When i fell off last spring, i was unable to ride for quite a while, and wasnt sure if i would ever be able to jump/ride english again, i came back to Barn A and started riding one of thier western horses and was getting ready to show this summer with him. Because i was riding one of her Morgans, and showing with them, my relationship with the BO improved greatly.

She mentioned just over a month ago that she had a room for rent if anyone was looking. I ended up renting this room, as i was looking to move out anyways.

Things were not all peaches and cream with me living there though. We have been continuously fighting, and even though its not professional, she has been treating me coldly at the barn as well.

Today, she asked me to move out, and i willingly agreed.

So my question is,

Should i stay at Barn A even though she is treating me rudely there, and i believe slandering me to some of the other riders, or move to another barn?

Barn A has fantastic people, its really close to where i live and work, and its cheap.

If you think i should move, where to? Im located in Beaumont, AB and will be looking for an all around barn where i can start jumping again.

If you read all that, thanks!

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post #2 of 8 Old 02-12-2013, 05:48 PM
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Dealing with people is hard. In the past 2 years I moved 3 times due to bad management. If you have a person that is mean to you its not worth it. There is always a better barn out there with nice people as well. On my 4th move I found the right barn. I pay way less, nice people....etc. If you have to deal with bad people you will start to get tired off it and not want to go see your horse. Thats how I was when I moved to barn 2. They owner was nice at fist, wanting my business. Then after a few months, it started to get worse. I put up with it for a long time, then got fed up with it. I left soon after. I hated that place.
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post #3 of 8 Old 02-13-2013, 11:53 AM Thread Starter
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Dealing with people is hard. In the past 2 years I moved 3 times due to bad management. If you have a person that is mean to you its not worth it. There is always a better barn out there with nice people as well. On my 4th move I found the right barn. I pay way less, nice people....etc. If you have to deal with bad people you will start to get tired off it and not want to go see your horse. Thats how I was when I moved to barn 2. They owner was nice at fist, wanting my business. Then after a few months, it started to get worse. I put up with it for a long time, then got fed up with it. I left soon after. I hated that place.
People suck eh? The place im at right now just isnt a happy place. And i dont want to be stressed out and worried about other people yelling at me while im riding. I've decided im going to leave, and its honestly like a giant weight has lifted off my shoulders

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I'm guessing that she is already being rude to you that once your move out things wont improve. Plus I wouldnt put up with a BO telling me what I can and cannot do with my horse (jumping). If it were me, I'd be looking for a new place. Good luck and keep us updated.
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post #5 of 8 Old 02-14-2013, 01:00 PM Thread Starter
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Trying out a couple horses next week at a really well known jumping barn. Its the same barn i was riding at this summer. Ive got my fingers crossed!

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post #6 of 8 Old 02-14-2013, 01:15 PM
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I would move. You will never be able to "just relax" and enjoy or concentrate "just" on what you need to. Sounds like you have been through a lot. Good luck!
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post #7 of 8 Old 02-14-2013, 02:37 PM
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I havent boarded in a while because I could never find a BO that I actually got a long with. When I only had my appaloosa things were terrible everywhere I went. I seen to it that his stall was clean 24/7 he had hay 24/7 water 24/7 and so forth. Even though I paid for full care bored. I bought my own feed, hay everything. All the BO's disliked me because I was way to particular and I was always on bad terms with them because they would never do anything like I asked. My gelding was being rode on 8-10 hour rides every single day other then ever other sunday. So, two days off a month. It was anywhere from 95-105 degree days. I wanted my horse in the best shape possible. I want him cared for to perfection. Nothing slipped by. Most BO's never condone me riding the way and didnt the long hours I did but that was my decision not theirs. My horse handled these rides like a champ he was conditioned for them. But he also needed the best of care to stay in good shape. I dont put up with a lot from BO's because they shouldnt be biased. They should accept each and every person they bring. Now, I understand if their are some abuse issues or rider/horse safety issues but not just out of being biased about a riders discipline preference.
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post #8 of 8 Old 02-14-2013, 03:01 PM Thread Starter
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I dont put up with a lot from BO's because they shouldnt be biased. They should accept each and every person they bring.
That was exactly the issue! I was the odd one out with a warmblood who i was jumping. He was put in the farthest field and wasnt fed enough, simply because he wasnt a champion Morgan.

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