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post #1 of 7 Old 05-21-2011, 04:54 AM Thread Starter
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I am a beginner rider and don't know how to ride a horse very easily. I have two horses, max and nel. They both have separation anxiety between each other but nel will still come with me. Max won't move at all and is impossible to do anything with. How do i overcome this anxiety. Do I build up the relationship with him? If so how?
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post #2 of 7 Old 05-22-2011, 01:34 AM
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Do you keep them together in the same pen?

When I had two horses, I would keep them in separate pens so when I took one out, the other would go nuts. I didn't really worry about it as long as the one I was working with was paying attention to me.

I guess I don't quite understand what exactly you're talking about with one horse following you and the other won't.
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post #3 of 7 Old 05-22-2011, 09:59 PM Thread Starter
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I have tried that but it doesn't really solve the problem
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post #4 of 7 Old 05-22-2011, 10:15 PM
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Their are two horses kept in the same pen at my house. My horse, and a friend of mine keeps her horse their also. When I take MY horse out the other horse goes nuts, he runs along the fence line screaming but MY horse just walks on calm and casually, he doesnt mind being taken away. But when I take out the other horse, he gets crazy, (My friends horse does not want to leave MY horse) and MY horse gets crazy also when left alone in the pasture, but not when is he the one being taken out.... My friends horse is more attached to MY horse than MY horse is attached to hers... But, I would suggest making their time away from each other fun, doing lots of interesting things and working them. They are what is called "Buddy Sour" and to start solving this issue would be to put a round pen right by the pasture they share and work them separate from each other till they are comfortable working alone and not with their buddy, then gradually get out of the round pen and work them farther and farther apart... They need to get used to be taken away from each other and the WORST possible thing to do would be to take them out together, it makes them feel as if they need the other horse to keep safe. Your horses arent trusting you as their leader so they rely on their friends to keep them safe and to take them from their only source of comfort makes them act like this. You must build trust between you and your horses so they trust you when you take them out and away from each other. My friends horse is still working on this and its a long process. When your horses trust you they wont mind spending an afternoon with you and without any other horse.... Build a better relationship with your horses.... This is not meant to sound rude in any way! Good Luck and Happy Riding (: I dont mind when the horse left in the pasture starts acting up, but I DO mind when the horse I am taking out starts throwing a fit.

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post #5 of 7 Old 05-22-2011, 11:42 PM
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When one animal is left behind, all that represents security to him is gone. Pretty scarey. When he's screaming he wants to come along. Traffic isn't an issue where I ride so I often let the other one tag along. I carried a crop in case he became disrespectful. Just showing it to him was usually enough.
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post #6 of 7 Old 05-23-2011, 01:07 AM
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I agree with Gallop On.

One suggestion is to make the barn-sour horse work near his buddy. Work him well. Lunge him or ride him, whichever is safer. Then let the horse rest far away from the buddy. The point is to show the horse that when he is near his buddy, he will have to work, but when he's away, he can rest. Horses are lazy, they like shortcuts and not working so when you make them, they will also respect you more and pay more attention to you instead of their buddy.
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post #7 of 7 Old 05-23-2011, 07:25 AM
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I'd suggest to use a trainer to help you if you are not a confident rider. The easiest way to break it would be to ride through (meaning riding next to the field first, then little further away, and away, and away). But I can imagine it can be a rather scary experience for the beginner. Another thing to try is lots of groundwork. Do it next to the field, then on distance keeping attention on you and not on the buddy horse in field. When horse will calm down and will be focused you can ride it.

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