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post #1 of 3 Old 11-24-2012, 12:13 PM Thread Starter
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Need Help Finding Motivation for this horse

Hey guys.
I am kinda having a unique problem with a horse right now. I normally ride every day no matter what the weather and love being out there. I still love to ride every day but I am having problems with this one horse.
My boyfriend bought a young horse and asked me to help him train it, then we broke up and he moved out leaving the horse as payment for the money he owed me. Every time I look at this horse or work with him I get upset thinking about the nasty way things ended with my boyfriend.
I love the horse and think he will make somebody an awesome horse. I would like to get him to a point where I can make a little money by selling him. I just feel like I am not the progress I should with him because of my negative attitude. I know I am doing him no favors but I can't seem to justify selling him at a loss when I know he could be so much better. I have trained lots of horses and I have never run into this problem before. So I guess what I am asking is .. should I keep him and try and work through my negative issues and make him the horse I know he can be. Or should I sell him for far less than he is worth and cut my losses?
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post #2 of 3 Old 11-24-2012, 07:31 PM
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Deal with it now or cut your losses. You're spending money and time keeping him, and soon that will outweigh any profits you'll make from his sale.

There is no quick or easy fix to getting over something, usually just time. And if the horse constantly reminds you then you may never quite get over it.

Another option of sorts could be to try and shift the associations. Perhaps rename the horse, train him for something you hadn't planned to train him for. Make him your horse.
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post #3 of 3 Old 11-24-2012, 07:45 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks for the reply, its funny that you mention training him for something different because today I was out getting ready to ride and I grabbed my western saddle, was halfway over to him and decided to throw my english saddle on him. Just because my ex wanted him to be a western horse doesn't mean he has to be now. I think I am going to ride him english and start him over some jumps in the spring. I had a much better ride today than I have in a very long time on him.
Since I paid nothing for the horse and the only expenses I have on him at the moment is having the farrier out I think I will keep him for a bit and see what happens now that I am riding him english. Might just be the kick in the pants I need to get over the anger I have at the situation.
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