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post #1 of 9 Old 07-07-2013, 03:19 PM Thread Starter
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Unhappy No confidence advice welcome.

I am having no luck with horses. It seems like every time I have ridden one, I have been thrown, or something among those lines has happened. I have this greenbroke paint pony who has helped me get over this fear... until now.
I used to be able to ride her bareback all of the time. Just last summer I would go out and sit on her while she grazed in the pasture. I tried that this summer and she threw me for no reason. I do not know why. I have always had the best relationship with my horse, but now I am pretty much afraid of her and nearly all other horses. I am just tired of being afraid of her, and I am tired of her attitude. I am really considering giving up on her and getting a new horse. My mom bought a new horse, but he had a little bit of an attitude and was really big. I was scared so my mom gave him to my sister. I am looking for a new horse, but every time I find one it feels like I am never gonna be a good enough rider for it. I have been around horses all of my life, but I just don't think I am experienced enough now. I do not know how to get around this setback.
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post #2 of 9 Old 07-07-2013, 03:24 PM
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You are right--you lack training experience. I would seriously spend the ~$300.00 on Clinton Anderson's basic training DVD's and follow them to the letter with your horse. He sounds like he needs some dedicated months of serious ground training, maybe some Bit Rigging, and then, under saddle in a fence in area, so NO BOLTING.
TOO many problem and ruined horses on the market, NO horse slaughtering bc D.C. wants to outlaw it, and TOO MANY new horse owners getting seriously hurt. I pains me.
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post #3 of 9 Old 07-07-2013, 10:23 PM
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Can you take some lessons to build up your confidence? Do you know how to lunge a horse? There are videos on utube you can watch to learn, and you can use a good long lead line to start a pony and keep from getting tangled up in it yourself. Do you have a round pen or even fenced yard to work in? How old is your sister, can she or your mom help you by controlling the pony on a lead line while you work on getting comfortable and well balanced on her? Get a crop or fairly short whip and discipline her when she misbehaves, meaning give her a smack if you need to. If you have another person to work with you it should be much easier. In the meantime get that pony out of the pasture, put a halter and lead on her and spend lots of time grooming and leading at a walk and making her respect you on the ground. There's a lot to do and no instant fix. Did you ride the pony before with a bridle or have you ever put a saddle on her? Bareback is great for learning to feel the horse under you and feel more secure in your seat but get someone to help you. Leading you around will allow you to relax a little and learn to feel the movement, maybe you and your sister can help each other teach those horses to lunge and you can both learn to ride with a good seat bareback, get some music and put your hands in the air and have fun. You don't have to spend a lot of money, look up how to on you tube, good books and work together. You can also find emergency dismounts on there, it's pretty much a given you're going to fall sooner or later but you can help each other practice getting off a little safer. Be careful but get to work, sisters are there for a reason :)
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post #4 of 9 Old 07-07-2013, 11:58 PM
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Lessons with a competant trainer.

Greenbroke horses aren't not suitable mounts for those lacking in confidence, especially when one doesn't have a good trainer.

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post #5 of 9 Old 07-09-2013, 07:04 AM
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Horses know when someone is inexperienced or lacking the confidence to make them listen. Don't give up on hour pony! A year ago when I bought my paint mare, I nearly sold her two weeks later. She was extremely hot and threw her head constantly. We couldn't do a simple walk. I had a friend come out and ride her who was much more experienced than me. Turned out my mare was extremely sensitive to leg cues and worked well of a very subtle soft touch.
I'm thankful I had a second opinion in her, as she is now a wonderful mount. Ask any friends or family who has more experienced to your pony and watch you ride also. An outsider can easily help spot problems with your riding, or.also suggest that the horse may need more training. Good luck
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post #6 of 9 Old 07-09-2013, 07:18 AM
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Sounds like you both need some extra schooling and I second Clinton Anderson. He's a no-nonsense teacher and gets his point across without frills.
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post #7 of 9 Old 07-09-2013, 08:22 AM
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So what have you actually done with this pony? What do you do when you work with her? What does she do?
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post #8 of 9 Old 07-09-2013, 08:27 AM
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DOn't worry - my sister was a very good horseman.
Every time she got on Golley - with or without saddle - then sometime during the ride, every single ride, she would fall off. Sometimes she would go hours without falling off, then at the end. BOOM, on the ground.

She had great experience and knew how to work with horses.
So don't worry too much about the falling off part - my sister could fall off at the walk. lol

My horse has a little attitude and is also big. When you get on a new horse or are around horses - you need to make sure that you aren't nervous. A nervous rider makes a nervous horse. My horse, Brisco, would throw me if I got on him bareback - wanna know why? Because His back is very sensitive without a saddle for number one, and number two: He hasn't been ridden bareback in over two years. It's something I need to work on - but When I stand next to his side, hand over back He is jsut fine. When I raise up on my toes and continue to slide my hand down, he starts pinning his ears, widening his eyes and raising his head. Look for signs that the horse might be uncomfortable. Even if it is the slightest change in ears.

On Golley I can get a running start and vault on him. His ears hardly twitch and he stands there, ASLEEP the whole time!

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post #9 of 9 Old 07-09-2013, 04:11 PM
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I know how you feel. I bought a couple horses a while back thinking they were going to be very good trail mounts for me and whoever wanted to ride with me. I had really good confidence up until I was riding the Arabian and he spooked while in a mud puddle. He nearly flipped over. I was able to hold on, but from them on I was always too scared.

And as someone else said, horses know when you are nervous or scared, and then they get nervous and scared, which makes them touchy, spooky, and all around a bad ride. A think if someone more experienced rode your horse for a while to find out it's quirks, you could return to the saddle and do well. In my case, I had to sell the ones I had to a more experiences horse rider (they are doing fantastic with him by the way) and buy something calmer and more 'beginner safe'. Now, me and my new horse Cowboy, are doing great together and I couldn't ask for a better horse. :)
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