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        12-18-2009, 10:40 PM
    Why did you start riding? Why did you buy a horse? Why did you start taking lessons? What were you striving to learn during lessons, striving to achieve? Was there a time that your heart quicken just before the mount? Did you ever lose time while riding? Saw or rode a horse that, Gosh!, you would just absolutely love to own? Can you remember a day when the sun, breeze and your horse lined up to give you the sweetest moment?

    You may not be burned out. Maybe, just maybe, you have lost the ‘moments’. It is what life is made of. There are a lot of in-betweens and then there are moments. That is why old people reminisce. Even the young always play the “ remember when game”. You see when you are always looking for a destination, a point of achievement, you lose moments. When moments are lost, ambition because tedious.

    A world traveler once told of the a secrete for enjoying the vicissitudes of exploring new experiences. She said to sit quietly and close one eyes. Pretend you are back home, back in your old home, in your old room, in the old world. Strive to achieve that state of presence. Then open your eyes and be in the moment, then one will truly enjoy their new travel challenges.

    Maybe you should go out to the barn. Sit quietly, image your are at an advanced age, your beautiful horses are now gone, the knees don’t blend so good, the back hurts, the kids need college money on and on. Now really believe it. Open your eyes and try with all your heart to be in that moment, after all it is only what truly exists. Capture the moment!

    As you strive to capture once again that portion of your spirit that you may think you lost, maybe striving to capture the moments that birthed you to horses may lead you back to yourself.

    You say that college is in the future. That means you have more years ahead of you then you have behind you. Possibilities are endless, roads wide and always branching off. Take it from one who has more years behind them than ahead and roads are now more narrow. It is ok to just sit and be with your horse. Good Luck.
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        12-18-2009, 10:54 PM
    JoJo1950 - You are impressively wise. What you wrote applies to many things, not just horseback riding. I think I need to print that out, put it up on my wall at work, and read it when I start to whine about my life. Thanks!
        12-19-2009, 12:52 AM
    Green Broke
    Ok, That's getting printed, pasted on the inside of my locker, and I'm going to read it every day!
        12-19-2009, 06:03 AM
    Green Broke

    I know what is like, I resentally went threw exactly the same thing, riding became a chore not a hobbie. I own my own who, who as well has begun misbehaving lately. It was less fun to ride, having to deal with him the whole time. I dragged myself back out there one day and rode, yes Chinga misbehaved shockingly. But I made him know, I was boss. I ride 7 days a week, weekly training sessions with a trainer and every day I train by myself. I've owned Chinga for around 7 months and its been full training since then. I find doing different things makes riding a heap more fun, we're training as eventers. So there is plenty of things for us to do.

    Is it possible to go on a holiday with your horse? I'm heading to the farm on January the 4th and we are messing around there for a months, cross country courses, galloping, dam swimming, cattle/sheep/alpaca herding! Heaps of fun!
        12-19-2009, 02:54 PM
    Green Broke
    Wow Jojo. That made me think about a lot. Thank you for that post.

    Thanks for some more suggestions, guys. I actually had a great ride yesterday. Demi was very cooperative and we just rode around like a little hunter horse (she loves being on the forehand and the majority of the reason she acts up is because I try to get her off the forehand). We w/t/c without a problem. The first time in about a month.

    We've offered Uma to one of my experienced friends to ride. She takes great care of her horses and she's ridden Uma before. She knows her idiosyncricies (sp?) so she won't be surprised that her flat work isn't that good. If she decides that she wants to take her and ride her ( we would have a free lease agreement just in case ) then she could. She can take her to shows or whatever she wants and possibly the USPC championships if she's ready to go. I think Uma and I just have too much history and maybe I'm a bit intimidated by her. She's a huge girl (17hh) and I've had her since she was a wee tot. We have A LOT of things working against our relationship. But no one else sees it because it's mostly internal.

    Stormy- why did they sell their ponies? I loved Just Peachy. He was so cute! I don't think I would be comfortable selling her to another teenager. She's a lot of horse to handle. An Adult Amateur with a trainer or a professional would be best for her.

    I think that riding one horse is going to be best for me. And perhaps I've just lost sight of how lucky I am to have horses at all.
        12-19-2009, 03:13 PM
    If I was you, I would take a horse and go on a really long trail ride. That helps me almost every time. If you're worried about your horse misbehaving, I would lunge him down first and maybe do a little ground work. One great ride is all it takes to get back into it, even if you're just doing something easy.

    Jojo- Wow. I'm going to save that onto my computer. That was really cool.
        12-19-2009, 03:22 PM
    Green Broke
    Problem is, she's longed every day. Haha. I must longe her or I will get bucked off no doubt about it. I don't have trails at my house... though I do have a truck and trailer... maybe I will try to get a group together
        12-19-2009, 03:53 PM
    Green Broke
    I'll come! Lol!

    Peaches only could go novice, and they didn't want to push her over that, and Anno is DEF ready to move up to Training, and work at Pre-Limb in the next year, they sold Peaches to a girl who will take her to the Special Olympics!
    Shadow never liked eventing as much as he loved Dressage, and the horse they did buy had a freak accident in the feild and won't ever be able to do more than walk trot ever again.
        12-19-2009, 08:56 PM
    It's Prelim Stormy

    Drew - When I was a Working Student, I was fully motivated at first. I loved being at the barn for all those hours. At first, I was just cleaning stalls and turning 30 horses out and bringing 30 horses in and making grain and feed and all that hoohaw.

    Eventually, after prooving myself to the BM, I was riding "Clients" horses for her - up to 5 a day. It was amazing at first, I learnt so much from each indavidual horse. How to change my seats, how to accomodate the horse, how to change my riding for each indavidual horse.

    I was riding horses from the "Nutso" category, to the "Shove a firecracker up their arse just to get them to move" category. I even trained a Fjord how to jump and do basic level dressage for pete's sake *who is now doing exceptionally well in Pony Club*

    But, I got burnt out. Not only having to spread myself for chores, but for the 5 horses, plus the 2 that I owned. Lessons, Comps - I was done.

    I didn't want to do it anymore, but I kept going. Then a "Blessing" in disquise happened. My Husband lost his job and I had to leave my position and get a job to help support our family, and due to that, I had to move my horses.

    We ened up Leasing out 1 horse, he went to a Pony Club home and is now at a fabulous barn, and I kept Nelson. It was a hard decision, but it had to be done. I had to decide which horse was more compatable for me and what horse would get me to my goals of getting back to Prelim.

    We chose Nelson. And to be honest, going back to the basics *meaning 1 horse, getting rid of the stress* , I found my joy in Riding and Training again.

    Now, I have only 1 horse to focus on in stead of 2 plus 5 others who weren't even my horses. I have goals, I have plans, I have moved to a new barn where I am a Boarder, not a Worker, so no more working 14 hours a day - and only have to focus on Nelson and I.

    I made things simpler. Re-focused on what I want, short term goals and long term goals. Taking 1 step at a time.
        12-19-2009, 11:27 PM
    Green Broke
    I would DIE if I had to muck 30 stalls a day. I hate doing our four!

    And thanks, I've always said pre-limb because that's how it sounded in my head, lol!

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