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post #1 of 41 Old 09-30-2012, 02:38 PM Thread Starter
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not having fun

For 12 years i had a tb mare who i had alot of fun with. She was the best horse ive ever owned.

Then in 2008,she passed away. :(

Oct.2008 i got a new horse. Kalypso.

From 2009 to 2011 i had okay rides with him.

The beginning of this year we switched him to new food. So hes been okay with it while i ride him. But now i have to work extra hard while riding him.

He doesnt move forword at the trot. He stops. So i have to wale my crop on him to get him to move. He just walks. Its hard for me to take him to a show if i have to keep wacking him with the crop(it just doesnt look good).

Meanwhile everybody at the barn has a better horse then me. They are all trotting and cantering. Here i am stuck with noplace to go. My boy is a stupid head.

I miss my tb mare sooo much. All i had to do was give a light squeeze with my legs and she trotted off. Then i asked her to canter and off she went.

My paint does not do that. You need alot of effort to get him going.

I was looking at my paint horse journal yesterday and they had pics fromt he youth show...theres a pic of a 9 year old girl who won champion in the walk trot divison.

Im an adult and i cant get my paint horse to move. This 9 yr old girl wins champ on her paint.

So i am not having fun anymore with my boy. im sorry. i had to tell someone.
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post #2 of 41 Old 09-30-2012, 03:37 PM
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If you have to resort to your stick to get your horse to move, something is not right... it shouldn't take a stick to get a horse to walk. Is your horse in pain? I dont think this is the fault of the horse (I'm going to sound harsh but...) this is the fault of the rider. IMO, by the sounds of it, you have gone from a push button to something you need to work on. You cant expect all horses to be the same and it is up to you to put the time and effort into him. The 9 year old girl is putting the work into her horse, so she is doing well with him. I'd suggest ruling out any medical/discomfort issues and then work on your own ability as a rider. Good luck :)

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post #3 of 41 Old 09-30-2012, 05:43 PM
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I agree with what the previous poster said. It is a rider issue, not a horse issue.

That horse has lost all softness if you have to "wail on him" just to make him move. I suggest getting back to basics and working on softness with a trainer. Sometimes a bit of physical encouragement will work, but it's obviously not working here. I don't believe this horse respects you, imo.

Not all horses are the same. You can't expect them to be and YOU as a rider must learn to change with them if YOU expect to continue to grow, learn and change. I learned that the hard way on a paint who was over sensitive to being smacked as a last resort. I ended up on my ass and learned from it. I changed my style of riding and I am still working on trying to figure out that fine line.

Riding isn't all about happy bunnies and unicorns, I'm sorry. you'regoing to have days, and even horses, who won't fit into your happy line of having fun. Comparing yourself to others will only smother you even more, so stop that.
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post #4 of 41 Old 09-30-2012, 07:02 PM
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Once you've made sure there are no pain/subtle lameness/medical issues that account for your guy's reluctance to move, you have two choices: 1) Sell him and get a different horse or 2) retrain him to move out properly (or 3) keep going as you have been, but that doesn't sound fun for horse OR rider). Do you think that his diet is a contributing factor? That's one of the easier things to change if necessary.

Quite honestly, and I may be unpopular for saying it, but I feel you- I HATE riding horses that you have to work and constantly keep on them to get them going forward. Give me a skittery jumpy mess over a bump on a log. 30 years from now, I may be singing a different tune, but unless I really loved and had bonded with a slow-poke horse, they wouldn't make my final cut if I was looking to buy. OTOH, retraining them can be very effective as well and you may end up with the very horse you want, so it is worth a try.

How often do you take your guy out into the great wide open? Is it possible that he's ring or arena sour and that is contributing? A good gallop in an open field and working w/t/c without worrying about anything other than a good forward rhythm in the great outdoors can do wonders to get horses moving freely again. Is your guy a stick-in-the-mud all the time (stall, turnout, pasture) or just under saddle? Is he the same way under saddle for riders other than yourself?

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post #5 of 41 Old 09-30-2012, 07:45 PM
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It's great that you've identified that things aren't working - that's the first step to solving the issue! My recommendation would be to do some work with a trainer who can help you figure out where things are going wrong.

Good luck!
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post #6 of 41 Old 09-30-2012, 09:15 PM
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So for two years he was OK, if I understand correctly. Now he is not. So what changed? The food, for one. So switch back to what he had before. And check him for soundness, soreness, stiffness. What about environment - any change there? Any change in farriers? Change in tack? Something's up.

Using your crop to get him to move is the wrong move, IMO. He is telling you that he doesn't want to - it's up to you to figure out why. If your riding style hasn't changed, then something has changed with the horse.
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Its hard to answer these questions....
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post #8 of 41 Old 09-30-2012, 10:01 PM
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What's so hard about them?
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post #9 of 41 Old 09-30-2012, 10:09 PM
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Probly not the answer you're looking for, but as last resort, find a new horse. If it gets to the point where riding is not fun anymore, some is seriously wrong.
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post #10 of 41 Old 09-30-2012, 10:13 PM
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Why is it hard to answer these questions? They're perfectly reasonable questions that could hold the answer to your problem. Unless the answer to one of these questions would reveal some information you don't want to say.
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