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    01-09-2010, 01:06 PM
Unhappy Overcoming Fears

Theres a lesson pony that I HAVE TO be able to canter on or else I'm never going to be able to canter Buster. But I'm really scared of him, he bites, kicks. He bucked me and my best friend off and kicked my friend when she was on her horse. When I was leading him, he tried to kick my friends horse. I need to overcome my fear of him. HELP!!
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    01-09-2010, 01:22 PM
Green Broke
He does NOT sound like a lesson horse, he sounds like he needs an experienced trainer, could you talk to the horses owner (oryour teacher) about how he scares you. You do not have to get over your fear on him, it sounds like you need a relaxed horsse that you can learn on, and trust. Maybe talk to your unstructor about riding a different lesson horse.
    01-09-2010, 01:46 PM
You shouldn't have to ride this "lesson" horse. To be honest he sounds like he needs a really experienced trainer, not somebody who is trying to gain experience. The more you ride him, the more your confidence will be knocked and it will put you off any horse, even Buster! You need a safe horse that will give you confidence, so just have a word with your instructor.
    01-09-2010, 01:48 PM
Yes, I agree with ridergirl. Talk to you instructor and explain to her you are scared of the pony. If she is a reasonable person she will understand. Ask if you can use a different horse, or have her teach you exactly what you need to do to gain the pony's respect. Trust your gut feelings, those nerves are there for a reason. Those feelings can keep you from getting hurt. It is true that a person can become unreasonably scared of something, but that is not always the case. If you feel uncomfortable doing something because you do not know how to handle the situation then you have genuine reason to be nervous. Do talk to your instructor. That may seem like a hard thing to do, but I assure it will be less painful then you think.

    01-09-2010, 01:55 PM
Well , here's a different advice from me :P I was sooo afraid of a schoolhorse in our menage and my situation was the same with yours :) You shouldn't be afraid because when you sit on the horses back and you're afradi you will fal that's for sure. Say yourself that you are the boss and when the horse kicks lean back and give your weight to your stirrups ;) If you fall off that's not the end of the world because everyone falls :) If it'd make you feel safer wear a bodyprotector :) Overcome your fear and believe in yourself :)
Hope this helps :)
    01-09-2010, 02:35 PM
That is some good advice too MaverickxDamra. There does come a time when you do need to just face up to your fears and deal with it. But if you are still a beginner rider, you need to start on a horse that builds your confidence, not tears it down. At some point you will need to learn how to ride horses that scare you a little, that is the only way you will grow. But don't ride those horses that scare you until you actually have to experience to know how to deal with it.

    01-09-2010, 06:55 PM
I actually got back on him a while ago. He's ok, but I have to keep my legs really soft. Thanks to those of you who posted.
    02-01-2010, 03:00 PM
Theres a lesson pony that I HAVE TO be able to canter on
or else I'm never going to be able to canter Buster.
What is the connection?

But I'm really scared of him, he bites, kicks.
So you should be if you have any sense

He bucked me and my best friend off and kicked my friend when she was on her horse.
What a little charmer

When I was leading him, he tried to kick my friends horse.
If he kicks you and your mates, he'll kick anything he can reach.

I need to overcome my fear of him.
No you don't - you need to get out of his way

The best thing I can suggest is that you find another riding centre.

You are relating a horror story. If the story is as you have said then the pony needs thrashing but not by you. The owner of the horse is being grossly irresponsible in even allowing you near such a monster.
You'll never 'cure' this little beast and even if it gives in once - that doesn't mean it won't come back at you. What's more you will come to believe that all ponies and horses behave in this way. They don't.

A pony is no defenceless weakling. An aggressive Shetland or Exmoor is a very powerful animal with speed, endurance and strength at its command. It has the mouth of a small crocodile. Always treat it with the respect it deserves.
Revise your list of plans and objectives - otherwise you'll wind up with a broken leg or even worse - and so will your friends.
    02-04-2010, 01:25 PM
Don't learn on him. It's that simple.

The first lope is an incredible step in an equestrian career. I tried to learn on a phsychotic mare and my trainer finally had to drag me off because even she was afraid for my safety. So she made me get on Pretzel to learn, which probably saved me from geting thrown. You need to learn on a horse that you trust, because if you don't it'll never happen right until you do.
    02-04-2010, 05:43 PM
Doesn't sound like this pony has any business being a lesson pony. He reminds me of a "lesson horse" I got stuck on.

Tell the BO or your instructor that you don't feel comfortable with the horse and that he scares you. Maybe explain how aggressive he has gotten with you and your friends. If she won't listen, then switch barn.

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