Just meandering here, but thinking about becoming a "driver" instead of a passenger.
A lot of riding lesson time is focussed on teaching people, new riders, to learn how to apply the "buttons" , or the aids as they are called. They learn how to command the horse to DO things.
What I often see as a problem, is them not learning how to turn off the commands. What I mean is they press the ON button and leave it on. They forget that they must stop pressing the ON button. The OFF button is at least as important as the ON button.
Do you know what I mean?