Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Chula Vista, CA
I agree Fort. I have said, quite a few times now, that it would benefit me more to pay someone to ride out on a trail with me than pay someone to give me a lesson in an arena. I want someone to tell me what to do or be my 'go to' when I am having an issue while I'm riding...whether the horse is doing something I don't want to do or I need someone to boost my confidence during the moment. Sometimes, just having someone there as a second set of eyes is worth millions! Just someone telling me....."You are fine, she is NOT bucking, just being a tart...continue on." Sometimes seeing someone else ride through a 'non-existent' problem on my horse too helps...showing me that the reaction will not be as horrible as I'm imagining.
This is exactly where I am at right now. I have taken my first four lessons here recently. At each lesson, I felt more confused and actually like I was not worthy enough to even ride my horse. I took what I was told at those lessons, along with advice of others, and applied those things on my own, in my own time and ways of thinking....and I have learned some things now.
My initial 'want' from taking lessons, was to be able to ask my green horse to canter without me confusing her. I paid for $200 in lessons and got walking around the arena, discouraged, in pain and feeling old and fat. I understand there are some basics to get through, but I don't think the time that was spent during all of this to walk around on my horse was worth it all and was waaaaay drawn out. So, I'm now still in that same situation...wanting to canter my green horse and learning the best way I can to do this with her. I've read many posts, books etc.....and even those will give you different ways to ask for the canter....making it even more confusing....then combine that with the fact that I overanylize everything is not a good combo...lol. So, if you move your outside leg back to ask for canter...how does the horse know not to canter when you use that same position to move his haunches etc????
Anyway, I will be the only owner of my horse and I can teach her 'my way' of asking for things...she doesn't know that the fancy dressage rider doesn't ask for things that way.
The biggest lesson for me as of lately, that was free, was watching myself ride by a window where I saw the reflection of me riding and what I THOUGHT was me sitting up in a good position....my perception was very wrong. So, I fixed it!