Originally Posted by deserthorsewoman
So, is it you not feeling " right" or is your instructor insisting in a certain way?
It's just my past instructors took my riding flaws and helped me to get a better position... and I'd ride Sky in my own time and I began to develop my own seat but then as lessons continued it just kept getting too picky. Now I have a better riding instructor who is increasing my confidence by asking me to do what feels right and I'm able to be less stiff... but it's a huge issue for me to stop being in a "perfect" position. When I first started lessons again in NZ I felt very insecure at times on a horse, but have improved since then.
Originally Posted by palogal
Bummer...What's fun about that?
It's not fun at all, hence why I'm always struggling with confidence.
And partially it's me. I am a perfectionist and I try not to be but it's a hard transition. I have begun to feel at one with a horse cantering but trot is still a problem (stemming from bad experiences that I can't let go of) and I've gotten a taste of lateral riding which is better.
But yeah too stiff hurts. I'm young but I feel as though my body is pretty beaten up from this bad ingrained habit.