Oh man, do I EVER love this thread! I went in to a salon for the first time in my life on my 21st birthday last year. I told the lady to give me a cut that was low maintenance, and she said it was no problem and that she understood I ride motorcycles and horses. Unfortunately, 'low maintenance' to her still meant 30 mins of blowdrying and curling and 3 different types of hair products so I couldn't maintain it lol. I just don't HAVE THE TIME! Plus I went to the barn right after the appt and it was flat as a pancake under my work hat. :P lol. Oh well, it was cute while it lasted.
I agree that you need to carve a little bit out of your busy day and get super dressed up. Do your hair, wear something feminine and soft, maybe a little perfume Go out and feel fancy for an evening. It does wonders for the self esteem, and I'm sure your husband wouldn't mind seeing your girly side! :)
Bottom line is, we're all in the same boat!!