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    05-01-2012, 08:19 PM
  #11
Trained
I write from experience. It's what happened to me too. Spent my first year wondering what was going to go wrong. Fast forward a few years and I'm hauling butt across hay fields with my hair on fire...and I'm 45!
     
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    05-01-2012, 08:53 PM
  #12
Foal
I think this has happened to everyone at some point. What you need is a good, steady horse that you trust. One that will behave and be responsive. I agree that once I had gotten some of my confidence back (enough to feel ready to try at least) trail rides got quite a bit of my confidence back. Just make sure the horse you get for the trail ride is going to be one you will feel confident on- if you are working out issues and the horse you are riding has issues that need to be worked out it isn't going to be a good combination.
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    05-02-2012, 08:59 PM
  #13
Foal
I'm a re-beginner too! And, it had been 10 years since I had last been on a horse when I picked up riding again (except for me, the last time was when I was 11!). I have some confidence issues too; sometimes I don't feel like I'm ready for what my trainer tells me to do.. she's even called me a weenie! Although it was in a playful manner.

Anyway, good luck to you! I know how you feel about getting frustrated- I feel the same way, when I have a lesson that is spent just trying to keep the horse on the rail and listen to me. But I'm sure that with every mishap we have it just teaches us more and more.
     
    05-02-2012, 09:38 PM
  #14
Showing
Just keep on keeping on!

As tinyliny beautiful stated: Have fun!

Ride those reliable safe horses and just let your body work it out. Don't worry about form or anything like that. That will come as soon as you let loose and relax. One that is nervous cannot soak up as much as one that is relaxed.

Everyone struggles with fear at some point in their riding lives. And it will paralyze you if you let it. It isn't bad to fall off, once you've fallen off 8 or more times at first it can be a little scary but it's nothing to fear!

Like MyBoyPuck said, you will learn to respect it not absorb and reflect it. For me that constitutes getting mad with myself for even thinking about falling off or freezing and bailing. I ride through it, and if I need to bail I bail. For you it might be something else.


You'll feel much better once you face those fears and just chill.
     
    05-03-2012, 09:49 AM
  #15
Foal
I want to thank everyone for responding to my post and giving such great advice! I've been reading all these posts from my phone, I haven't been able to get on a computer and respond until now. (My mare is very close to foaling so I've been a little preoccupied..)

Last weekend when I didn't have a lesson scheduled I saddled up the horse I usually ride, and I just rode here around in the arena by myself and we had a great time. :) It was nice just relaxing and having a blast!

However, I was having trouble with the reins though. For some reason I have to keep reminding myself to pull up and not out. Because when I did it correctly, she would not turn and kept sticking to the wall. I'm talking like I kept getting almost slammed into the wall. And I started getting upset again because I felt like I was the worst rider int he world. But when I talked to the instructor later, she told me it was the horse, not me. She's supposed to be "dead broke" but she's having issues that need worked on so I'm being put on a different horse this weekend. Randi, the horse I was riding, won't back up if you're riding her. She keeps pushing me into the wall no matter how much I guide her and she gets distracted by every. Little. Thing. But, she's new to the barn so we're trying a different horse for me this weekend. And he's one that's ridden a lot for people that just come up for trail rides that don't really know how to ride, or have never ridden before.

She wants to take me out on the trail too. Not, really into the woods, I don't know how to explain it...just a short little section that has a small creek and some hills, etc.

Wish me luck! Sorry this is all over the place, my preggo mare has me all frazzled.
     
    05-03-2012, 09:57 AM
  #16
Foal
I normally ride by my self because my instructor for jumping is never available to ride with me... so I never really get told if my jumping position is incorrect. I recently had my father take a video of my jumping this horse that I keep in check and training, since he is used only be a little girl who lets him get away with everything. I noticed many things wrong, and it's because one I am not paying attention, and two I don't have someone to tell me I need to correct the problem. Just have fun, and don't push yourself into trying to be better and better. It can cause pain both you and your horse, or you can put yourself in a dangerous situation and hurt someone, or something. So have fun, relax. Don't think about the past... and don't think about how dangerous the horse is either, the horse can and will sense that, and cause him to become nervous... so just relax and have a fun, safe mind.
     
    05-03-2012, 05:07 PM
  #17
Weanling
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Originally Posted by horsebraid    
She wants to take me out on the trail too. Not, really into the woods, I don't know how to explain it...just a short little section that has a small creek and some hills, etc.
I think that's good advice. As long as it's a "close-in" safe trail setting, that's a great idea. When I was young (don't like to think of how long ago THAT was) I used to go to the barn after school and go on long trail rides by myself. It was great and the time in the saddle and time in close connection with my horse was a wonderful way to increase my comfort/skill/ability/etc. Since I was riding alone, I could go jump ditches, race around for no reason, practice lead changes or whatever I wanted to do at the time and no matter what I was doing, the hours in the saddle were adding up the whole time. I miss those days and I occasionally go on trailrides alone (these days) and I still find it very enjoyable.

Your confidence will come. You'll have "aha!" moments that you'll remember forever. I can remember the first time I ever rode a horse running at stretched-out-full-speed without having to conciously think about the mechanics of staying on, like it was yesterday even though it was 48 years ago! As another poster said, we were tearing across the pasture like our collective hair was on fire and all of a sudden I realized that I was just having fun and the mechanics of it all had become second-nature-enough that it didn't require all of the concious/careful thought that it did before. It was an "aha" moment that I'll never forget, I hope!

You'll have many of those. What EVER you do, don't quit! Have fun and enjoy the relationship with your horses. THAT's what it's all about for me. When my dear Quarter horse and I are too old to ride, we'll just spend time in the pasture together and it will still be fun....
     
    05-03-2012, 07:16 PM
  #18
Showing
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Originally Posted by horsebraid    
However, I was having trouble with the reins though. For some reason I have to keep reminding myself to pull up and not out. Because when I did it correctly, she would not turn and kept sticking to the wall. I'm talking like I kept getting almost slammed into the wall. And I started getting upset again because I felt like I was the worst rider int he world.
What? Could you explain this a bit more..??
     

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