Originally Posted by horsebraid
She wants to take me out on the trail too. Not, really into the woods, I don't know how to explain it...just a short little section that has a small creek and some hills, etc.
I think that's good advice. As long as it's a "close-in" safe trail setting, that's a great idea. When I was young (don't like to think of how long ago THAT was) I used to go to the barn after school and go on long trail rides by myself. It was great and the time in the saddle and time in close connection with my horse was a wonderful way to increase my comfort/skill/ability/etc. Since I was riding alone, I could go jump ditches, race around for no reason, practice lead changes or whatever I wanted to do at the time and no matter what I was doing, the hours in the saddle were adding up the whole time. I miss those days and I occasionally go on trailrides alone (these days) and I still find it very enjoyable.
Your confidence will come. You'll have "aha!" moments that you'll remember forever. I can remember the first time I ever rode a horse running at stretched-out-full-speed without having to conciously think about the mechanics of staying on, like it was yesterday even though it was 48 years ago! As another poster said, we were tearing across the pasture like our collective hair was on fire and all of a sudden I realized that I was just having fun and the mechanics of it all had become second-nature-enough that it didn't require all of the concious/careful thought that it did before. It was an "aha" moment that I'll never forget, I hope!
You'll have many of those. What EVER you do, don't quit! Have fun and enjoy the relationship with your horses. THAT's what it's all about for me. When my dear Quarter horse and I are too old to ride, we'll just spend time in the pasture together and it will still be fun....