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post #1 of 14 Old 02-02-2010, 03:32 AM Thread Starter
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Unhappy Really given up.


It feels like a chore to ride now, everyone is mean to me at the stables and is making me feel bad and stuff... I feel like a failure, i am so close to just quitting riding all together and selling my horses. It is making horse riding so... annoying and chore like.

Cookies if you read that... Don't really want to transfer my sadness onto here so yeah..


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post #2 of 14 Old 02-02-2010, 03:58 AM
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why dont you change stable if its the people because not all people are bad :)
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post #3 of 14 Old 02-02-2010, 04:24 AM Thread Starter
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Originally Posted by RedTree View Post
why dont you change stable if its the people because not all people are bad :)
I have lost all motivation and it feels like a chore anyway... And I'm even starting to believe my own horse is bad.

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post #4 of 14 Old 02-02-2010, 08:29 AM
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Since you've posted frownie faces and un-smilies, I'm assuming that you're not that enthused about quitting riding.

I second the suggestion about changing barns if it's the people that are leaning you toward giving up horses. Sometimes the people around you can really mess with your head. When I first took up riding, a few people really put me up to the showing end of it, when I wasn't that into showing. It was kind of put to me that if I didn't want to glitz up and rake in ribbons there was no point to the lessons.

My instructor was awesome, though, and the words "show" and "class" were rarely spoken during the lesson, unless to answer a question. She and her daughter show at the national level with their QH's; I think it's a huge testament to her teaching skills that she doesn't push people away because they don't want to/aren't able to compete at that level.

One of the best things I ever did was get my own horse, stable him at home, and become my own driving force in what I wanted to accomplish with him and myself. I do show occasionally, but it isn't why I got into horses. That's Scoutrider Storytime for the day, I'll shut up now.

Now, I'll just be nosey: What has happened that now you think that your horse is bad? What kind of riding do you do? How long have you been riding? Maybe a change in disciplines will bring back some of that motivation.

Don't give up just yet. Maybe a change of scenery is all that you need.

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post #5 of 14 Old 02-02-2010, 08:45 AM
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I agree. It sounds like your environment is the problem, not your horse. Can you get to the barn for a few hours when nobody else is there? Sounds like you need some 1:1 time with your babies to see them in their true light, then decide what to do. Don't let anyone else make up your mind for you.

It never hurts to visit some other barns and meet other trainers, just to see what a change would be like!

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post #6 of 14 Old 02-02-2010, 09:48 AM
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I was in a similar situation at my last barn, I changed barns and its a WORLD of difference! I love my horse and I truely enjoy him now and I even got a second! I would start looking for a new place to go.
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post #7 of 14 Old 02-02-2010, 11:04 AM
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I agree with what others have already said. It sounds like it is the barn and the people involved with it that are bringing you down. Try looking for other barns in the area. Sometimes a change like that is all it takes to make things new and exciting again.

Another suggestion is to try a different discipline of riding. Maybe you and your horse could use some variety and a new challenge.

Best of luck in your decision. <3

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post #8 of 14 Old 02-02-2010, 12:32 PM
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Take a step back and make a list of everything you love about horses and riding horses. Then set a goal of what you want to accomplish this year in your riding and training. Maybe you want to learn how to barrel race, maybe you want to go on a challenging trail ride. Whatever it is, make a goal. Share your goals with your riding instructor and come up with a plan on how you will achieve those goals. If you don't have a riding instructor, detail your own plan on how you will achieve your goals. Goals don't have to be about winning ribbons, but about accomplishing something YOU want to do or learn with your horse.

Also, look into moving barns. Sounds like the one you are at is a downer.
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post #9 of 14 Old 02-02-2010, 01:45 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks everyone... No one cares about their horses they just whip them and stuff for no reason!! I have been looking at this place nearby i can take my horse to instead... So i guess i will go there! It's a really pretty place with good facilities.

Just to let you know if you want - I do English, and endurance... More endurance than English riding though. :)

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post #10 of 14 Old 02-02-2010, 05:18 PM
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I had that at my old barn. It was all drama and people were friendly at first, but then they would start doing things that I questioned. It just wasn't inviting. I changed barns and as soon as I walked into the other place, the feel was different and you could just tell it was a better situation. I love it there, and my whole outlook on horse people has changed.
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