Originally Posted by tinyliny
Love your trainer! Like the idea of the polo wrap around the neck. I shall use that, thank you.
Try not to work too hard at it. It' is meant to allow you to move with the horse and allow the horse to move more forward without interference, so the big thing is to be really going with the flow of the horse and ALLOWING the horse to move through . Later, as you get better, you can influence the hrose through the rising trot but first you need to be able to be a great follower.
So, relax mentally but not slouch. Breath slowly and loosely. Let your ankles sink down and stay kind of pulsing so that they can absorb some of the motion. Think of your heel as pointing backward and downward, toward the horse's rear feet. Think of joining his back feet with your feet and riding in harmony with his engine (the back feet). Just a silly mental image but it helps me.
Thank you! I will try everything you just mentioned. Can you tell me why sometimes I feel like I am stretching so much down into the stirrups? Does that make sense? I assume it is just weakness. Sometimes I feel like I really have it, and other times I just feel like a clutz!