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post #1 of 13 Old 04-07-2009, 12:43 AM Thread Starter
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Scared/Nervous. :\

A few years ago, I had a few bad falls and was terrified of cantering. After a while i started up again and continued on to move up a level and start jumping. For a while I was back in the swing of things. I even started riding a really, really fast horse and had a lot of fun with him. I would've normally been scared but now I wasn't.. my confidence was back. Since then, I don't know.. I've just lost it all together. Now I spend all the time in between my lessons freaking out that I'll be put a bad horse and they'll do something bad. It gets to the point where I can't sleep & I'm sick of it. Ways to gain confidence back//stop the nerves?
I think, personally, that I just need a trusting horse that will help me calm down, but my instructor insists on switching it up all the time and sticks me on random horses without my opinion. =\
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post #2 of 13 Old 04-07-2009, 01:22 AM
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You might try voicing your opinion to your instructor and tell them that you are not really comfortable being plopped on a different horse every time with no knowledge before hand and not letting you put your imput in. That may be a big part of your problem is that you never know which horse you are going to ride. Riding lots of horses is great for learning how different horses learn and react differently, but every time you ride is too much to switch. That would crack anybody's confidence.

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... I read in some other posts that you were training some horses and that you tend to ride very difficult horses and fall off at least two times a week? Color me confused.
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A good way to gain confedence is to trust your horse period.
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... I read in some other posts that you were training some horses and that you tend to ride very difficult horses and fall off at least two times a week? Color me confused.
The main problem is that every single time a horse is acting up, they stick me on them for some reason. So I have no idea who I'm riding and it freaks me out. If I knew I was riding my usual bugger who tries to kill me every lesson, I actually wouldn't be nervous cause I'd just be like, "As long as I have my heals down" or whatever. It's mostly the unpredictability [is that a word? lol] on who I get stuck on. >.<

thnx guys. (:
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You need to talk to your instructor and let them know how you feel. Why do something if you arent having fun and it should be?


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post #7 of 13 Old 04-07-2009, 12:58 PM
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In that case I would suggest speaking with your instructor and when they ask you to get on horses you are uncomfortable with simply say "Thanks but no thanks."
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post #8 of 13 Old 04-07-2009, 10:17 PM Thread Starter
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With the school horses though, they are already tacked up and such and basically every horse is either being used or has been used already that day, so I can't switch horses..
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post #9 of 13 Old 04-09-2009, 02:39 PM
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If that's the case, where either you use that horse or don't use one at all, maybe you should look into a different barn. That doesn't sound fair at all. I'm not sure how old you are, but if you are a younger student and your trainer isn't listening to you maybe your parents or guardians should step in and say something. There's absolutly no reason why you should be forced to ride horses that you are so uncomfortable with that you are making yourself sick.
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post #10 of 13 Old 04-09-2009, 03:18 PM Thread Starter
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My instructor has never done me wrong. I know she's just trying to get me to realize I can ride more advanced horses.
It's just sometimes it really scares me. : \
Yesterday I was on a pretty advanced horse who was really fast & a bit grouchy and we ended up actually haivng a great lesson. So maybe she's doing the right thing to build up my confidence.. but IDK. It just scares me sometimes.
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