Ok so me and Smarty are working out some 'kinks' in our relationship. She doesnt trust me and I do not trust her and we accidently fed her feed that got her too much energy so she kept spooking. She's had a month off now due to the floods and she seems very level headed but I'm about to start riding her again(lunge her first before I get on first though) but I'm worried if I ride her and she spooks or puts her head down and throws in a pigroot I will slip out of my **** english saddle. I always go to grab her main or the front of my saddle and theres nothing there and so I fall off. I have bad posture and am working on correcting these but I'm still leaning to ride again after having major surgery on my spine. I was wondering what would really be the best saddle. I was looking into a western because they feel so secure, but my friends at the aggistment stick their nose up at that type of saddle because they are 'difficult to fall out of, you can get caught on the horn' I have a stock saddle but don't know if it really fits her. My instructor is going to give me her opinion at my lesson tomorrow. So I'm left with questions about spooking horses. She turns on a dime and last time I only just managed to stay on but she spun again then I fell off. What are some good excercises I could maybe do? I have not much flexibility due to my spine but I was thinking of taking up jogging. I don't know, I just want to get good enough to deal with the spooks coz she's beautiful and It's not her, it's me so I want to get her over this problem. Another thing I will be trying to do some ground work desensitizing her with things. Such as barrels. Ever since my friend was rolling barrels around in the arena and rolled 2 of them too close to smarty, one where it nearly hit her in the freakin chest and she went running backwards I nearly went off every since because of that girl she's terrified of moving barrels. What is my best way to get her over this? Yes the girl was an idiot and I'm still unhappy about it but she just wasnt thinking so I'mworkin with what I got. This is the most kindest horse ever and I know if I sold her and looked for a dead broke horse I'd get the same result. Its not the horse, it's me. This horse was ridden by a 10 year old before me, did showing competing etc. She is so gentle but I'm terrified that I am going to ruin her and maybe if I had a more secure seat I wouldnt fall off? I don't know any tips??