I guess it's just interpretation because to me the videos are more than just well trained horses. I see horses that are bonded with their owner.
I think a bond is when you see a horse that is not just obeying because they are told, but a horse that wants to please its owner, wants to spend time with its owner, wants to be with its owner over other horses.
My trainer's horse loved her. I have no doubt. He was so lovable and affectionate toward her. He looked devastated if he saw her riding another horse. He'd follow her around like a puppy. You could see it in his eyes that he loved her.
I don't know why but so many horse people poo poo on this and always try to write it off as something else. "Oh he just wants a treat. His nuzzling isn't affection, he's scratching an itch" or something like that.
Some people don't feel that bond with their horses so they don't really get it. A horse is something they ride. They have multiple horses that they buy and sell all the time. Or their horses are there to perform a job. That's cool. Nothing wrong with it.
But to say "what is a bond" makes me think that if you have to ask, then you've never felt it. If you've bonded with a horse or any pet, you know what that bond is.
It reminds me of the hunters I know who have multiple hunting dogs. There is a respect between dog and owner, but not a bond. So the hunters don't "get" the bond people like me have with my dogs. I had one guy try to tell me that my dogs don't really love me. They just want food or them wanting me to pet them is really their way of dominating me. Whatever dude. Your dogs are tools for you, that's fine. But to assume that its that way with other people is just wrong.
So anyway, I think unlike dogs, a human/horse bond is harder to come by and takes more time than the dog/human bond. But it can and does happen. But for the OP, if she's just not feeling it with this horse, I don't know....I'd be tempted to sell. Some horses you just don't click with. The old mare I used to ride was like that. I can't imagine owning a horse I feel connection to. Too much money and work for that, lol.
Last edited by Heelsdown; 01-23-2012 at 12:10 AM.